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Use Your Core

May 06, 2021 by Samjah Iman in Motivation

I’m still here. I’ve been doing a lot of writing for Hello Beautiful (yay!) which has been taking up the majority of my creative time. I’m flowing, not forcing things, and not crowding up my schedule these days. I’ve fallen in love with my new-found flexibility, and it’s making life more peaceful for me. It has taken me yeeeeaaarrrrssss to get to this place in my life, and I’m grateful.

Another thing that has been tremendously working for me is yoga. I know I’ve spoken about my yoga practice on here before, but during this time in my life I’m even more dedicated to it. It’s like a religion to me now. I practice it 3 times a week with a yogi (Black Yoga Bae) and 6 to 7 times a week on my own. In class, one of the main things my yoga teacher repeats constantly is, “use your core”. Whenever we are struggling to make a pose work or make our body move in an unfamiliar way, she emphasizes how using our core will help us conquer the feat. She is right. Because every time I go to pick myself up from a low lunge to Warrior 3 pose, it’s my core that supports and guides me. It’s amazing how when I don’t use my core, I struggle to get into position. But when I do rely on my core, it’s much easier to transition to the next pose. This truth also applies to my life.

Outfit Details: Tee // Jeans // Purse (Free People, old)

My center holds all the answers. It’s where my creator resides. When I make moves without being led by my core, I’m shaky. But when I allow my core to lead me, I’m unwavering and firm in my decision and purpose.

Strength and wisdom live in our core, and when we use it to sustain or guide us in any move we make we’re in alignment. This doesn’t mean the move won’t be uncomfortable or we won’t stumble at times, it means that we are cultivating our inner power, exercising our control, and strengthening our endurance. The core is where it’s at. Use it.

Peace and Blessings,

- Samjah Iman

Life Update: I'm the One Who Needs the Work.

April 08, 2021 by Samjah Iman

I’ve been over here practicing yoga, drinking water, sleeping, and appropriately feeding my mind, body, and spirit. While I’m enjoying this chill phase of my life, I’m also learning more about me. And one valuable lesson that keeps coming back to me is the lesson of self. Basically, it’s not them, it’s me. After a few failed attempts at trying to alter the world and the people in it, I came to the conclusion that it would be better for my health if I just concentrate on the only person I could control - me. Before I came to this conclusion, I found myself falling back into the rut of trying to get people to see things differently, to prove how right I was and how wrong the other person was, to try and make people be considerate, nice, etc. I was running myself absolutely crazy while people were seemingly so peaceful with being idiots :-). I knew something was off. I was making life waaaaay harder than it had to be, and I had to realign quick.

Of course, as the universe will have it, the teacher appears when the student is ready. I went to my YouTube app one day to find the perfect meditation soundtrack, and I came across the Tao Te Ching. I listened intently. One thing the narrator said that caught my attention was this…Mastering others requires force. Mastering the self needs strength. - The Tao

Trying to stop a dog from being a dog is senseless. You can’t change the ways of the dog, but you can change if or how you deal with those ways. This is the journey I’m on. I’m no longer pointing the finger outward. I’m pointing it inward. My concentration has been on discovering and tending to my triggers. I now look at every encounter, every situation, and every relationship as a learning experience - a chance for me to see how much I’ve grown and how much work I still have to do. I wake up everyday and make a vow (that I break from time to time lol) to only control what I can control, and let the rest be. Operating this way has afforded me more peace. I’m seeing the fruits of my labor which makes me even more excited to continue on this path. I’m not sure where this current journey will lead me, but I have a feeling that because of this new way of living, blessings will ensue. I’ll keep you all posted.

Outfit Details: Top and Skirt // Heels (old - Steve Madden)

I took a blog sabbatical, but I was still putting looks together! In case you’re not following me on Instagram, below are some of the styles you’ve missed!

Outfit Details: Dress // Boots (old)

Outfit Details: Blazer (old) // Biker Shorts // Crop Top // Tennis (old)

Outfit Details: Crop Top // Joggers // Boots

Outfit Details: Jogger Set // Hat

Outfit Details: T-shirt // Jeans (Target in-store) // Heels

Outfit Details: Jogger Set

Outfit Details: Jacket (Custom made by Aud Culture) // Leggings // Boots

Photo Credit: 87 Photography

Peace and Blessings,

- Samjah Iman

39 Challenging Lessons I'm Still Learning

February 04, 2021 by Samjah Iman in Motivation, Style

I’m 39 years old today, and it is absolutely hilarious! I’m still trying to figure out how I jumped from worrying about keeping up with every style choice and dance move TLC (the popular 90’s R&B girl group) made, to cursing in my head while I’m at the grocery store because I literally have only 5 food items on the conveyor belt - and my total is $69.72!! Jesus! But no matter how tough, easy, or EXPENSIVE life gets - I’m grateful. I’m grateful that I’m here to experience all that the universe offers. Life has afforded me some beautiful lessons. Some were easy to learn while others are still being embedded in my psyche.

You may see the lessons I’ve written below next year….and maybe even the year after that. That’s because I am still learning. I will always be learning. My focus is not on mastering anything, it’s centered on giving myself grace as I cruise through the unpredictable waves of life because this experience is a journey, not a conquest. And with that written, below are my 39 lessons I’m still learning.

Blaming other people for your mishaps and poor decisions is futile. Learn from past mistakes, forgive yourself, move the hell on, and be prepared to make some new mistakes. That’s how you gain wisdom, Sam.
Trust God’s timing, it is PERFECT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Every delay, every no, every not now is for a reason! Some times we will know the reason, some times we won’t. That is where faith comes in.
Your intuition is the most valuable asset you possess. Use it, use it some more, and use it again. The more you use it, the stronger it becomes. The more you ignore it, the more faint it becomes.
Believe what he/she shows you, not what he/she says.
You’re always going to be learning. Gaining knowledge and wisdom never ceases. In fact, the more you know - the more confused you may be.
You only have a few friends…just a few. The older you get, the less you will have - and that’s okay.
Talk to your loved ones (especially your parents) as often as you can. They don’t stay around forever. You won’t either.
Always ask yourself if you are living for you or for someone else. Peer pressure is real and can distort even the most confident person’s view.
Save more money girl. Life is full a surprises and some of them cost a fortune (like grocery store trips *insert eye roll*).
Vulnerability is actually a sign of strength. Open your heart. It’s a courageous act.
This too shall pass.
Gather your thoughts before you speak in a heated discussion. It’s easier to do damage than to undo it.
Breathe…..just breathe. Take deep breaths. They really help.
Try to always operate in a state of gratefulness. The universe responds abundantly to that. It also helps make life a little easier.
Deep connections energize you. Keep seeking them.
Your alone time is non-negotiable. It revitalizes you. It nurtures your spirit. Don’t ever let anyone infringe upon that…..no matter how cute they are lol.
Understand that other people are fighting battles too. Sometimes their decisions have nothing to do with you but everything to do with their experiences, situations, fears etc. Get over yourself.
Don’t be afraid to take chances. At the least you’ll have an interesting story to tell.
Stop looking, and you’ll find it.
You are going to be pissed off at yourself in the future if you look back and see that you dimmed your light. To avoid a mid-life crisis, be who you are fully meant to be right now.
Listen more than you talk. Sometimes if you let the other person do the talking, you’ll learn everything you need to know without having to seek.
Check yourself often. Being self-aware is the most wise thing you can do.
Rest is spiritual….that is when you hear from God.
Continue to give things away for free. This could be advice, things you no longer need, a smile, a compliment, or a listening ear. It feeds your soul when you give. The reward is contentment.
Say no to anything that doesn’t serve you. Saying no (and sometimes saying yes) shows self-confidence.
Remember to put yourself on a mind diet often. Some things that aren’t mean to positively serve you can seep into your subconscious without you even knowing it. Monitor what you monitor.
Be okay with being misunderstood. Not everyone is on the same path as you and that’s okay.
Continue to exercise. Show God your appreciation for the temple you were blessed with by taking care of it.
Have a lazy day at least once a month. DO ABSOLUTELY NOTHING ON THAT DAY! This revitalizes you and boosts your creativity.
It’s okay if you don’t have all the answers. Be confident in what you don’t know as well as what you do know. Also, it’s okay to be wrong. That’s how you learn.
It is not your responsibility to fix everyone. God loves them even more than you love them. So let God take care of them. You tend to yourself.
Don’t be afraid to start over. There are blessings in new beginnings.
Tell yourself the truth always, then be as honest as you can with others. The truth may be hard at first in some instances, but it saves you a lot of turmoil in the long run.
Read and travel as often as you can. These are two of the best ways to educate yourself.
Connect with nature more. Take walks, let the sun embrace you. This is therapy.
Remember that success is subjective. You don’t have to want what the world wants. Your success doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s. As long as it’s fulfilling to you, that’s all that matters.
Try to do what’s right now so that you won’t have to pay for it later. A lot of people are still living with mistakes they made yeeeaaaarrrsss ago. Take heed.
Live out as many dreams as possible. If they don’t work out, so what? At least you can say you tried.
Focus on the good, and the good will multiply.

Peace and Blessings,

- The Birthday Girl

Outfit Details: Y’all, I have absolutely no outfit details on this look because everything is old! I purchased these pants from ASOS about eight years ago! The shirt I’m wearing is a long, white buttoned-down that I tied up, and the shoes came from Steve Madden years ago. Sorry!

Photo Credit: 87 Photography

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Recognizing My Power...

January 07, 2021 by Samjah Iman in 70s Fashion, Energy, Motivation, Style

It’s January 7th, 2021 at 11:39 a.m. I’m writing this blog post from the comfort of my kitchen table. As I sip my water and nosh on my King Cake, I’m in a state of calmness. Ironically, Nas’ classic song, The World is Yours, is seeping through my Bluetooth speaker. I chuckle. His words match my sentiments. I’m reveling in the fact that there’s an apparent shift happening in the universe, and I’m 100% positive that I am on the right side of that shift.

Of course the buffoonery that was displayed yesterday at the U.S. Capitol showed us what we already knew…white privilege is alive and well. But through all the pandemonium, my understanding of just how powerful my people are became even more apparent. Those terrorists where not only acting out of stupidity, they were acting out of cowardice. They are scared. They are scared that the nation they worked so hard to steer in their direction is slipping right from under their weak palms. They are scared that more of us finally woke up, and that the power we as black people showed in this last presidential election and in Georgia will be exercised from here on out. Although yesterday wasn’t a laughing matter, I couldn’t help but smile. I smiled because my power is so persuasive, my voice is so resounding, my vote is so critical, it brings the demonic spirit out of suckers, it rallies the positive activists, it puts officials in and out of government seats, it changes the political trajectory of racist states, and it gives hope to future generations. With this much power, there is no need for me to wait for life to go in my direction. I can get what I want, when I want it, how I want it. I come from brilliant people, and with the technology and resources I have at my finger tips - I should be doing it bigger and better than they did. All I have to do is tap into the power that lives right in my spirit, and I will.

Recognize the power you have, and use it wisely. Continue to flourish, continue to heal, continue to use your talents for your benefit and then for the greater good of our community. It’s our time y’all….let’s make our foremothers and forefathers proud.

Walking in my power,

- Samjah Iman

Photo Credit: 87 Photography

Outfit Details: Floral Turtle Neck // Wide Leg Pants // Purse

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I No Longer Wear a Mask

August 04, 2020 by Samjah Iman in Energy, Motivation, Style

I couldn’t stand my mask. Every chance I got to take it off, I was beyond relieved. I felt free, unrestricted – like I could let it all hang out. It was hard to express myself with a covering. I was just going through the motions like the rest of the world; covering up for fear of being exposed or exposing. When I had the mask
on, I often hoped someone could see the real me through my eyes. Then maybe they would become intrigued enough to ask for more of me. Sometimes, when no one was looking (usually in my own privacy or around family), I’d pull the mask down to show my own self a little more of me. I missed the real me when the mask was on, and I needed to make sure I was still there. I was. Behind that mask every bit of me was still intact – waiting to be freed. I came alive when that mask was off. I smiled harder, asked millions of questions, made funny faces, did goofy impressions. I even frowned here and there. Halfway through my sans-mask theatrics, I would begin to dread going back out into the real world because I knew I had to pull the mask back up in fear of judgment.

One day I got bold. I had enough of hiding. I decided to show my entire face. On that day I did not
give two damns about who saw me, who whispered about me, or even who stopped being my friend. I wanted to feel at home in my soul. I wanted to be who God intended me to be. So, I did just that. I ripped that mask off and came alive. And you better believe I was all of Sam and then some. I took the light I was given and flashed it every chance I got. And from that day forth, I never put that mask on again. It did not matter what the world was doing or what I would lose. I was only concerned about feeding the joy inside of me and what I would gain from doing so.

“Working pleasing me, cause I can’t please you, and that’s why I do what I do. ”

— Erykah Badu

If you haven’t caught on just yet, I’m not talking about the mask I wear to block Covid and protect others from my germs (I wear that mask faithfully, okay?!). I’m talking about the mask I wore years before Covid. The one I used to wear to disguise my true self so that others would feel comfortable. I grew up surrounded by a culture that did not praise people for being who they were meant to be. In my school environment, the more you flaunted your true self – the more your peers envied you. They loved for you to wear a mask because they wore one so naturally themselves. Back then I did not know their hate had everything to do with them and nothing to do with me. I was a typical teenager who was finding herself but at the same time wanting to make friends with everyone. I quickly learned that one of those two things had to go. Either I was going to shine the light God granted me or dim it to try and fit in. After many trials and errors (even some current relapses here and there), I concluded that having only a select, few friends is enough; however, shinning my light and not wearing a mask is nonnegotiable. Those two things are essential for me to breathe.

“I was always too concerned about what everybody would think. But I can’t live for everybody. I got to live my life for me. ”

— India Arie

Every now and then I find myself reverting to that junior high girl who wanted everyone to like her. Then I check myself. I remember my purpose. I recall that taking off my mask and being who I’m truly meant to be not only feeds my soul, it also gives that next girl, boy, woman, or man permission to pull that mask down and show us their full face. Me sprinkling my spicy Sam dust on the world gives it that kick it needs. Because if we all put the same flavor in this world, how dull would it be? Give the world the real you, someone needs to see it to be the real them.

Keep your Covid masks on my babies, take the invisible ones off though.

- Samjah Iman

Outfit Details: Thou Shalt Tee // Shorts (Homemade) // Mules (sold out) // Hat

Photographer: Welch Inc Photography

20 Hard Lessons I Had to Learn....

February 04, 2020 by Samjah Iman in Style, Motivation

It’s my 38th year on earth. I’m blessed. Birthdays are becoming more of an intimate celebration for me. I don’t need the parties or all the hoopla. I just need a moment to first be grateful, then to reflect on how far I’ve come. It’s amazing how time does what it does regardless of what is happening around us. At one point in my life I thought my confusing teenage years would never end, now look at me - 38 years old and still trying to figure shit out.

There have been some waves to ride on this journey to 38. I’ve had some beautiful times that have left me in pure awe and bliss, and I’ve encountered some rough patches that had me side eyeing God like, “Really??” But through it all I’ve gained some valuable lessons that I hold close to me, and I’m on a quest for more wisdom.

I’d be remiss if I didn’t share the knowledge I’ve been gifted with over the years with you guys. So I looked through some of my journals, and pulled 20 hard lessons I learned throughout my journey. I refer to them as hard lessons because I’m still learning most of them. Now keep in mind that these lessons are tailored to my experiences. However, feel free to take away whatever you may need. Let’s jump into them below.

20 Hard Lessons I Had to Learn

Blaming other people for your mishaps and poor decisions is futile. Learn from past mistakes, forgive yourself, move the hell on, and be prepared to make some new mistakes. That’s how you gain wisdom, Sam.
Your intuition is the most valuable asset you possess. Use it, use it some more, and use it again. The more you use it, the stronger it becomes. The more you ignore it, the more faint it becomes.
Believe what he shows you, not what he says.
You’re always going to be learning. Gaining knowledge and wisdom never ceases. In fact, the more you know - the more confused you may be.
You only have a few friends…just a few. The older you get, the less you will have - and that’s okay.
Talk to your loved ones (especially your parents) as often as you can. They don’t stay around forever. You won’t either.
Always ask yourself if you are living for you or for someone else. Peer pressure is real and can distort even the most confident person’s view.
Save more money girl. Life is full a surprises and some of them cost a fortune.
Vulnerability is actually a sign of strength. Open your heart. It’s a courageous act.
This too shall pass.
Gather your thoughts before you speak in a heated discussion. It’s easier to do damage than to undo it.
Breathe…..just breathe. Take deep breaths. They really help.
Try to always operate in a state of gratefulness. It helps make life a little easier.
Deep connections energize you. Keep seeking them.
Your alone time is non-negotiable. It revitalizes you. It nurtures your spirit. Don’t ever let anyone infringe upon that…..no matter how cute they are lol.
Understand that other people are fighting battles too. Sometimes their decisions have nothing to do with you but everything to do with their experiences, situations, fears etc. Get over yourself.
Don’t be afraid to take chances. At the least you’ll have an interesting story to tell.
Stop looking, and you’ll find it.
You are going to be pissed off at yourself in the future if you look back and see that you dimmed your light. To avoid a mid-life crisis, be who you are fully meant to be right now.
Listen more than you talk. Sometimes if you let the other person do the talking, you’ll learn everything you need to know without having to seek.

Thank you guys for sharing this journey with me. I appreciate you all and this platform to express my thoughts and feelings more than you know! My heart is full.

Peace and Blessings,

- Samjah Iman

Outfit Details: Joggers // Sweatshirt (Similar color)// Pumps

Photo Credit: Corey Anthony

The Briefing

December 10, 2019 by Samjah Iman in Style, Motivation

I’ve been in three different cities in the last week. I have two different cities to visit in the middle of this week and one next week. Tired doesn’t adequately describe how I feel right now, but I’m pushing through because I know there’s something on the other side of this grind that will be more than rewarding for me and the people in my circle. Because I urgently need some rest and relaxation in my life, I’m not going to keep you all long. I’m laying out a somewhat quick summation of what I’ve been moved by and feeding off of the last two weeks in hopes of passing on some good information to you guys. Let’s jump into the briefing below.

What I’m Currently Feeding My Mind - Podcasts have been getting me through these road trips and grind sessions. I religiously tune into the David Banner Podcast for good laughs and enlightening information. Banner and his crew love to kid around often on the podcast, but they haven’t failed me yet when it comes to interviewing interesting guests and providing solid motivation. The other day I listened to his two-part interview with rapper, songwriter, and music producer THE D.O.C. I literally soaked up every word! His story was inspiring and unique. He talks about his tumultuous, yet triumphant journey through his career, how his spirituality has evolved because of it, and how he learned from life’s ebbs and flows. He even touched on him and my girl Erykah Badu’s relationship! Check the episodes out here…. (part 1 and part 2) - at the least you’ll definitely be entertained.

Another podcast that has my attention is a series called Making Beyoncé on WBEZ Chicago. It tells the story of Beyoncé’s career from her childhood to her adulthood. You’ve probably heard Bey’s story a hundred times before, but this is a little different. The perspective of this story comes from the people she encountered in the music industry, her past group mate, and her father. Listening to this podcast was uplifting and empowering. It inspired me to keep going even when everything around you says stop. You can say what you want about Beyoncé, but you can’t say that woman hasn’t earned her accolades. Check it out here.

Some Good Advice I Received - I was letting my playlist do its thing while driving the other day, and it pleasantly surprised me with an oldie but goodie - Feng Shui by Gnarls Barkley (hadn’t heard this album in a minute - man I miss good, eccentric music). As soon as the lyrics started coming through the speakers, my attention was peaked…..“In this house the decor is the obvious obscure. See clearly the theory of less is more………..and you’re welcome to stay, but even your company must complement the feng shui.” I’ve been on this “less is more” lifestyle lately, and it’s very cleansing - so hearing this song was like a sign assuring me that I was on the right path. I’m clearing out unnecessary things in order to feel lighter. And when I heard Gnarls’ line “even your company must complement the feng shui,” I realized that not only do I need to clear some things out of my head, heart, space, etc., I also need to make sure the people who surround me or who try to come in my house ( i.e. my heart, my life, my space, etc.) must match my vibe and energy. Thanks Gnarls.

What I’m Working On - Another thing I’m working on besides clearing my space is moving to my own beat. I’m extremely conscious and focused on making sure almost everything I’m doing is aligned with my wants, aspirations, and needs. When it’s all said and done, I want to make sure I lived my life for me and no one else. I want to be able to take full responsibility for all of my choices and actions. I want to do things not because others think I should, but because I choose to. My goal is to continue to operate in authenticity - no matter how that looks.

My Quote Of The Week - “The truth bangs harder. We learn that the more we tell it.” - Saul Williams - It isn’t always easy to tell or live in truth, but it is extremely liberating when we do it - EXTREMELY.

My Current Fashion Obsessions - I am totally into my white boots. I purchased an off white pair (that I still wear) last year, but this year I’m into the whitest of the white boots. They pop so well with dark colors, and there’s something about them that polishes up a look and gives it a crisp vibe. Check out how I styled my white booties below.

Oh, I’m also digging my Teddy Coat from Shein. It’s so comfortable and warm! It also adds a funkiness to any look whether it be a dressed up or down look. Check that out below as well.

Picture Credit: Felicia T. Simpson

Picture Credit: 87 Photography

Until the next time,

- Samjah Iman

Outfit Details: Black Jumper (available in-store only) // Black and White Earrings (available in-store only) // White Booties // Teddy Coat // Dr. Martens Patent Leather Boots // Fanny Pack

Adjustments

November 14, 2019 by Samjah Iman in Style, Energy

The weather here in Louisiana does whatever the hell it wants to do. One day you’re pulling out your shorts and sandals in anticipation of a festival, and the next day you’re wrapped up like rice and beans in a burrito. Just this past weekend I was rocking leggings and a top sans coat, and yesterday I had on almost every clothing article I own in an effort to block the chill. Even though this unpredictable forecast makes it hard to plan ahead when it comes to outfits, I don’t complain. Because being a life-long Louisianian, I’m used to the inconsistent weather (especially during this time of year). And as I was turning off my air conditioner (once again) the other day preparing to adjust to the cold, I thought about how such is life - adjustments.

I no longer wait for life to adjust to me, I adjust to it. If life throws me a little more than what I ask for, I get a bigger glove to catch it all. If life wants to take its time, I slow down and rest right along with it. Not adjusting to life’s shenanigans and going against the grain when everything else around you is changing is like refusing to wear a coat in 20 degree weather because you’re mad the temperature dropped…a total unnecessary struggle.

Making adjustments is a part of life. They aren’t always easy to do, but in order for us to get to the next level, we must constantly adapt and adjust. In most cases I’m faced with two choices when a situation arises- I can either complain that it’s happening, or I can adjust my vibrations/position/attitude to adapt and move forward. Of course the complaining won’t get me anywhere, but the adjustments eventually will. Because with each adjustment comes a little more strength, a little more perseverance, and a little more wisdom. It’s just like playing chess or a sport. If your opponent (life) makes one move, you don’t just stand there and complain because they did it, you make a move too. And the more moves you make, the better you get. And the better you become, the more victories you’ll have.

“The pessimist complains about the wind. The optimist expects it to change. The leader adjusts the sails.”

— John Maxwell

Adjusting,

- Samjah Iman

Outfit Details: Top (Zara, in store only) // Jeans // Hat // Mules

Photo Credit: 87 Photography

Asking Myself This One Question Is Changing My Trajectory

October 16, 2019 by Samjah Iman in Style

I read a particular article not too long ago that totally gave me a “wow” moment. This simple article was about a lady who was seeing a therapist because her marriage was on the rocks. She was distraught and confused about her situation until her free-spirited therapist (as described in her article) asked her this one question….”What would you do about this situation if fear wasn’t in the equation?” Immediately after the sentence left the therapist’s mouth, the lady said she knew exactly what her answer was and what she needed to do. My mind was consumed by reflection after reading that article. I thought about how fear is the focal point of a lot of decisions being made or not being made. I then asked myself, “Sam, what would you be doing right now if fear wasn’t a part of the equation?” Listen…..I came up with about 20 different things without even thinking twice.

People are always talking about how fear is the reason most aren’t achieving their grand goals. But what’s not often discussed is how fear possibly governs even the smallest situations in our everyday lives. To put it plainly, some of us are basically scared of rejection, outcomes, and consequences not just regarding the major things, but the minor things as well. For instance, sometimes we won’t say what we feel because we are afraid a person will stop speaking to us or take our feelings the wrong way. Sometimes we won’t make that call because we are scared the other person won’t answer. Some of us are scared to rest because we fear someone will outdo us or something won’t get done so we work ourselves to death. Some of us are scared that life won’t turn out how we want it to so we rush into doing things. Some of us are scared of not having enough of whatever we need so we become physical and emotional hoarders. Some of us are scared that others will think the worst of us so we put up fronts. Fear is taking the wheel in a number of situations in our lives, and it’s time to pull the car over and switch drivers.

After reading the article, I incorporated that question into my everyday actions. When a dilemma arises, no matter how big or small, I ask myself what I would do if fear wasn’t in the equation. In most situations, the answer comes to me faster than I can blink. Asking myself this simple, yet powerful question has helped me discover more of my truth. I now know the main reason behind some of my actions and setbacks. And now that I know what the exact issue is….the real work is about to begin. Because knowing what you need to do is one thing, actually doing it is a whole other (and baby, that’s an entire post for another day…whew child).

Negating Fear,

- Samjah Iman

Outfit Details: Flannel Shirt (Walmart) // Adidas Biker Shorts // Socks // Dr. Martens

Photo Credit: 87 Photography

Rewiring My Mind

October 04, 2019 by Samjah Iman in Style

I write these blog posts that document my journey to becoming a better me, but writing is only half the battle. I still have to put in major work outside of these blogs because, simply put, life is real. I’ve come far on my journey, and I’m very proud of that fact. Yet in still, I have to put in work daily to keep up what I’ve achieved thus far. You wouldn’t stop exercising after you’ve reached your ideal weight, huh? I sure hope not…or else you’ll eventually go back to square one….and that’s the point many people don’t emphasize - the work to maintain your progress.

For instance, we are often bombarded with messages about the importance of shifting our mindsets and thinking positive. But rarely do we see messages that tell us how much work it is to do those things. Experts estimate that we have about 60,000-80,000 thoughts per day. Now take a second and think about the work you have to put in to tame all of those thoughts that run rapidly through your head. With that many thoughts shifting in and out of our brains, it’s so easy to let our minds get off track here and there. And because it’s so easy to go back to our old default settings, every now and then we have to do some rewiring.

We get so caught up in and bogged down by our everyday lives that sometimes we forget to be intentional with our thoughts. When you’re concentrating on paying bills, feeding people, meeting deadlines, fighting traffic, and listening to other people’s perceptions - controlling your thoughts may fall by the wayside at times. I know my efforts to control my thoughts definitely plummeted these past couple of weeks. I was so caught up in what was going on in the world because I messed around and saw some crazy stuff on the news (which I try not to watch often), so of course my mind began to wonder….”What if this happens? What if I never? What if it’s not meant? What if that and what if this?” Next thing you know, stress and anxiety were threatening my peace. Fast forward a few days later, the universe came to my aid and, out of the blue, placed me and a friend of mine in the same space (everything happens for a reason). We ate lunch and talked about our vibrations and how powerful the mind is and things that happen as a result of us not controlling our thoughts and the energy around us…..and then it dawned on me - my positive vibrations went awry and my mind reverted back to where I worked so hard to bring it from because I allowed the negative things I witnessed to occupy my mind longer than they needed to. The wrong thoughts began to consume my mind, and I had to put in the work to get back on the right path mentally. I had to dig deeper in my yoga class, continuously listen to uplifting music (no trap music for a minute), fall asleep with positive podcasts playing in my ear, read affirming words religiously, and have positive conversations with people who were on the vibrations I was trying to get back to. And you better believe my spirits were lifted again almost immediately.

Just like every other thing in our life that needs maintaining, our mind is no exception. We just can’t declare we want to think differently then sit and watch it happen. Or we can’t just work on our minds once and be done. It takes a lot of effort, faith, and daily work to train our minds to think how we want them to think. We’re going to slip at times, and we’re going to have to do some rewiring to rectify those slips….but as long as we understand it’s a constant practice, we are definitely on the right path….mentally.

Changing my mindset…..every second,

- Samjah Iman

Outfit Details: Yah is Dope Yoga shorts, Crop Top, & Fanny Pack // Boots

Oh and don’t forget to cop your SOMEONE’S DAUGHTER t-shirt before they are all gone!! I only have 7 left! Get yours here!

Picture Credit: Welch, Inc Photography

Five Ways I Stock Up on My Emotional Currency

September 19, 2019 by Samjah Iman in Style, Energy

I’m constantly evolving. I try each day to be my best self, and of course sometimes I fall short. I’ve come to the conclusion that I’m not going to hit the bullseye every single time, and I’m okay with that. As long as I keep working towards being the best Sam I can be, it’s all good. Life is a journey - it’s ongoing. We will forever be improving, learning new things, contradicting ourselves as a result of learning new things, and striving for greatness. Becoming the best you doesn’t mean you will get it right each time, nor does it mean you are going to be the perfect human being. It just means that you’re becoming more self-aware, and that you’re on a steady path of looking inward (checking yourself often) more than you do outward (blaming everyone/everything for your actions/emotions). Once I realized that becoming my better self is a constant practice, I relaxed. Things began to flow a little easier, and I was able to do the work without any pressure. I began to heal, display more grace and mercy for myself and others, and stock up on some much needed emotional currency. I’m no therapist or psychiatrist, nor do I have all the answers. I’m just a woman who has been blessed with wise counsel and lessons on top of lessons. And when I learn a lesson or receive some great advice from a trusting source, I feel it’s my duty to disseminate said knowledge so that others can be blessed as well - hence, Style & Energy.

I got some great feedback from my previous post, Can You Afford It….Emotionally. I’m truly grateful that I could inspire at least one person to take emotional inventory. It’s imperative that we stock up on our emotional currency constantly because life takes a lot out of us. Therefore, we must replenish what we’ve lost so that we can stay spiritually full.

In keeping my promise that I made in my last post, I’m sharing five ways I stock up on my emotional currency. Let’s dive into them below.

Heal
I’m on a healing path. I’m learning to speak up when I’ve been wronged or confide in a trusting source about my traumatic incidents. And if talking is too uncomfortable, I journal about them. Any process that allows you to open your wounds and clean them out will definitely help with healing. When we don’t heal properly we tend to carry those unhealed experiences around with us piling one negative experience on top of the next. Pretty soon, we get to a weary and weighed down place because we are carrying too much. We have to not only say we are going to let go, but actually do it. Letting go surely doesn’t happen over night. It’s a process. But if we are truly dedicated to our healing, it’s a process we must work on daily. Another thing I do that is beneficial to my healing is forgiving myself. I rest in the fact that I only acted off the limited knowledge I had in the past, and as Maya Angelou said, “When you know better, you do better.” Therefore, I don’t beat myself up about what I didn’t know then. I just try my best to make good use of the knowledge I have now.
Feel
I now embrace every feeling I have. I’m not faking the funk or hiding it. Ignoring or hiding your feelings only pushes them under the rug. And you better believe when someone “flips” that rug one day (i.e. pisses you off or disappoints you), all the feelings you’ve been tucking away will fly up from under that rug just like dust. I discovered that there is no way to go over my feelings, under them, around them, over them, or on the side of them. I have to go through them. I have to embrace my feelings and be real with myself about them. When I’m hurt, I allow myself to be hurt. When I’m sad, I allow that….happy, etc. Feeling your emotions when they arise allows you to tend to them right then and there so that you can clear out any toxicity in real time. Tucking them away allows the toxicity to fester which depletes you over time, and this is definitely a set-up for a future debacle.
Confer With and Feed Your Spirit
The more I listen to my spirit, the stronger it becomes. Choosing to consult my spirit on the choices I make has been one of my best moves yet. In the past, I would end up in some crazy situations simply because I didn’t follow my gut/spirit. And the moment I began to honor my higher self, my higher self began to honor me in return. Tending to my spirit is like drinking water - it’s essential for my well-being. In order for me to have a healthy emotional balance, I have to make sure my spirit is flushed out and filled up often. Yoga, soulful music, positive affirmations, books, and writing are some of the things that help me achieve a full spirit. Click here to see some other ways in which I feed my spirit/soul.
Know and Respect Your Limits
Once you discover what your emotional triggers are, honor them. It’s one thing to know something, but it’s a totally different thing to act upon what you know. If a certain person, situation, or environment depletes your energy or contributes to your emotions spiraling out of control, try to find the will power to either change your attitude or limit your involvement with that person, situation, or environment. Just like some of us know our limit and respect it when it comes to drinking alcohol due to experiencing those fun, inebriated moments-turned stomach curling disasters, we should also learn our limits and respect them when it comes to spending our emotions. If you know what the consequences will be and you can live with the hang over, then jump out there. But if you know the hang over will put you in a funk that will eventually become taxing on your spirit, your mental, and your emotions - “back up off of it and sit your cup down.” - Snoop Dog.
Take Some Time To Be With Yourself
I was watching an interview featuring rapper/actor/music producer David Banner that resonated with me. Banner proclaimed, during this interview, that he was currently happier than he had ever been in his life. The person conducting the interview asked him what was the source that contributed to his happiness. Banner answered, “loving myself….truly loving myself and the God in me.” He went on to say that he could be by himself now. He could sit alone in a coffee or tea shop or not feel the need to turn a TV on when he’s in his own company because he truly loves being with him. Solitude is a genuine expression of self love. Finding the time to sit or be with yourself helps to rejuvenate you. It allows you to explore your thoughts and feelings and connect with your inner God without any interruptions. Certain people and things can exhaust our energy thus draining our emotional bank. We have to step away from those people/things every so often to check in with ourselves - making sure we are good.

I’m still a work in progress, but these simple practices have helped me tremendously. Of course everyone is different, and what works for me may not work for the next person. You can try my tactics, tweak them to fit your vibe, or come up with a complete set of new ones. Whatever you choose to do, just make sure you put in the work to get your emotional currency up - because EVERYTHING comes with a price.

Saving,

- Samjah Iman

Oh……the ‘I’m Someone’s Daughter Too’ Tees are back in stock!!!!! Get yours here before they are gone!

Outfit Details: Bralette (similar, here) // Black Oversized Joggers // Mules

Photo Credit: 87 Photography

10 Ways I'm Managing Stress

August 15, 2019 by Samjah Iman in Style

Listen…stress has been trying to be my best friend since the end of last year. Every time I turn around it’s all up in my space, threatening me with its heavy burdens. The other afternoon I made plans to head home immediately after I finished my work, change into some workout clothes, and get to my exercise class on time. Well…..I did make it home, but I didn’t get a chance to put on any workout clothes. As soon as I stepped over my threshold, I was greeted with water all over my kitchen and living room floor - saturating my beautiful rugs and internet router. My first reaction was “are you kidding me!?”….and I let myself have that moment. Then I exercised one of my stress-fighting tactics and looked on the bright side. I began to think about the other tragic things that could have happen but didn’t. My mood was instantly lifted, and I began to rectify the situation as best as I could.

Chaos doesn’t stop. Life will continuously happen. Just as the sun comes up, it’s a pretty good chance some crap will come up with it. Therefore we must learn how to manage most of our stress because life is on a roll, and it’s not slowing down any time soon. In case you’re still struggling with ways to control your stress, maybe some of the 10 tactics I’m using to manage my stress will give you ideas. Check it out below.

I’m not viewing everything as a stressful situation - At one point in my life, every bump in the road seemed like a stressful situation BECAUSE I MADE IT ONE!!! I would often make a small issue bigger than it needed to be. Now days, if it’s something that hasn’t harmed me or my loved ones or jeopardized my livelihood, I take it with a grain of salt. Delayed flight? No worries, I’ll get there when I’m supposed to. Missed opportunity? It wasn’t meant. Late getting to an event to no fault of my own? Guess I wasn’t supposed to be there at a certain time. It’s too many inconveniences happening throughout the day to make a big fuss about all of them. So when it comes to this stress thing, I’m choosing my battles wisely.
Sometimes I do nothing - Every now and then I stress myself out more when I try to find a solution to an already stressful situation. These days, if it’s out of my control, I try to leave it alone and let it work itself out. When we take our hands off of certain situations, the Creator then intervenes on our behalf. This is where the serenity prayer comes in handy (google it if you need to).
I’m being grateful - When something crazy happens, I always try to be grateful for the simple fact that it could have been worse. I think about people who’ve gone through far more trying times, and suddenly my problems seem trivial. Gratitude forces me to nix my complaining and count my blessings.
I give myself a moment - We get so caught up in trying to be the ultimate positive person that we forget we are real humans with real emotions. Sometimes when we are hit with an unfamiliar occurrence, our first reaction is not always zen-filled. And my advice is to give yourself a moment to express your authentic feelings towards any stressful situation. Allow yourself to be human. If you’re mad, be mad. If you need to cry, cry. Holding in frustration and faking the funk will only lead to more stressful feelings internally. So have your moment, give yourself the space and time to feel whatever you need to feel, then move forward. Releasing your true feelings is like releasing toxins from your body…..it’s good for your internal system. It’s nothing wrong with expressing true emotions, just don’t dwell in that emotional space.
I laugh at some of my problems - Of course not all problems are laughable, but the ones that don’t wreck havoc get a chuckle or two from me. This reminds me not to take life too seriously. It also reminds me that I’m way more powerful than the problem at hand.
I go to hot yoga class like it’s church - Going to my hot yoga class has truly done wonders for my stress levels. Yoga emphasizes the importance of relying on your breathing in every pose/situation. This practice forces me to be calm, still, in the moment, and patient. Being in the moment is half the battle when it comes to managing stress. To sum up a message from my girl Erykah Badu, most stress comes from thinking about the past or thinking about what’s to come….and we don’t have either. All we have is now. So with the help of yoga, I’m able to be more mentally discipline and hone in on the present.
I look for the lesson and/or blessing - When a stressful situation arises I take the time to feel my emotions, grasp what’s going on, and then I ask myself, “What can I learn from this?” or “What good thing came out of this?” Almost every time I ask myself those questions, I get an answer because I’m seeking one. When you look for the good, it always shows up.
I listen to jazz - Music is like food to me. It fuels me. And when I seek calmness, one of my go-to music genres is jazz. Jazz is medicine for my soul. It’s soothing to my ears and mind. Jazz has a way of smoothing any mood out, and this is especially helpful during difficult times.
I rest in the fact that it will pass - My favorite mantra I reference often is, “This too shall pass.” With a little time and a lot patience, whatever I’m dealing with will pass. When a problem arises, I return to this mantra. I also recall all of the past problems I’ve had, and I think about how I got over them. And I know this one will not be any different.
I get it off my chest - Sometimes you just have to hear yourself talk about your issues. Getting it off your chest or discussing your issues with loved ones is another way to manage your stressful situations. A listening ear is valuable, and sometimes just by hearing ourselves talk about our problems out loud we began to feel better or find a solution on our own. And if you prefer not to talk to anyone about your problems, release your frustrations on paper. Lingering stress is equivalent to having an infection in your body. You have to get it out or else it will fester and turn into something worse.

There you have it, 10 ways to get your stress under control. If you have any other suggestions on managing stress, please leave them in the comments below!

Oh and peep out my stunning outfit I found at Fharenheit 360. I can’t get over this tiered skirt!!

Peace and Blessings,

- Samjah Iman

Picture Credit: Urban 504 Photography

Photo Credit: https://mandmphotographygallery.com/

I'm Someone's Daughter Too....

July 11, 2019 by Samjah Iman in Style

The idea for this shirt came to me organically. I was having a conversation with a young man a while ago about his immature behavior. In order to make him deeply understand where I was coming from I said to him, “be the kind of man you’d want your daughter to date or be friends with.” He had no rebuttal.

That evening, I was venting to my mother about the behavior of some men and how I was sick of it. I then told her about my conversation, and I reiterated the fact that I wanted men to treat women like they would want someone to treat their daughters. My mother began co-signing my proclamation and in the middle of her praise, I interrupted her and said, “Ma, that should really be on a shirt.” And here we are…..

Although this shirt evolved from my experiences with some males. It actually speaks to both men and women. Check out what I’m talking about below.

Men – this movement has nothing to do with how you actually treat your daughter or how you will treat your future daughter. It has everything to do with how you want another man to treat her and you reciprocating that behavior when it comes to other girls/women. When you encounter a female, be mindful of the fact that your own daughter (or future daughter) will be navigating this world one day – plant some good seeds for her karma.
~ Talk to us like you would want someone to talk to your daughter.
~ Be considerate of our feelings like you wish for someone to be considerate of your daughter’s feelings.
~ Don’t govern our bodies because you wouldn’t want another man governing your daughter’s body.
~ Protect and stand up for us like you hope someone will do for your baby girl.

Keep in mind that every female you meet, deal with, have a friendship with, a relationship with, etc. is someone’s daughter. Treat her as such.

Women – Show your fellow woman the same grace you would want another female showing your daughter.
~ Don’t stare her up and down with negativity burning through your eyes.
~ Don’t publicly support her then silently pray for her downfall.
~ Lift her up with beautiful words and unending inspiration just like you would want someone to lift your little girl up.
~ Don’t be nasty to her because her abilities make you feel insecure.
~ Don’t hate when you see God’s favor shining through the fruits of her labor.

The last thing you would want is for someone to do any of these things to your daughter….or even you – you’re somebody’s daughter too.

Self – Ladies, let’s love ourselves as if we are our own daughters. Let’s give ourselves the understanding, unconditional love, patience, grace, and forgiveness we would give our little girls. Let’s take care of ourselves and have mercy on ourselves, all while keeping in mind that we aren’t perfect - but as close to perfection as it will get.

We are divine energy personified. We are constantly evolving. We are walking, talking blessings. Let’s act accordingly.

This shirt is the beginning of a campaign - a campaign to hold ourselves and our men accountable. Join the campaign by purchasing your shirt here.

P.S. - There is a only a limited supply of these shirts for now. I wanted to introduce them to my subscribers first before I put them on social media. I hope you will consider spreading this message by purchasing a t-shirt….if not, it’s all good…..I’m still rocking with ya! xoxoxo

Oh and one more thing, check out my recent Essence Festival recap here! My email system did something crazy earlier this week and sent an old post out…oh well - s%^& happens!

Peace and Blessings,

- Samjah Iman

Essence Festival 2019 - THE GRIND!!!

July 08, 2019 by Samjah Iman in Style, Beauty

New Orleans boasted its usual vibrant, hospitable aura as rambunctious men and women bombarded its bumpy roads and roamed every nook and cranny of its soul. Graphic t-shirts, off-the-shoulder frilly tops, innovative braided hair-dos, and tropical print shirts dominated the streets, sidewalks, and venues. Car horns blared because the city (and traffic) literally froze to witness this glorious, melanin-filled influx. Music was blasting, camera flashes were constantly erupting, and smiles were infectious and contagious as the weekend got underway. This, my friends, is what the 25th Essence Festival Weekend was all about. Hot music, swanky fashion, and beauty galore are just a few reason why this past Essence weekend was nothing short of SUCCESSFUL!!! And did I mention our Forever First Lady, Michelle Obama, was in the building…..AND that I had a front row seat to the Beauty Carnival (thanks to All Things Hair) where experts were on hand to give you tips, products, and foot massages?!? Yup, even the sweltering heat couldn’t keep me away this year. It was my duty (literally) and pleasure to be on the scene!

My Essence weekend was definitely an exciting grind. While I got the chance to experience impactful events and meet intriguing people, it was more strategic for me. My goal was to put myself in some beneficial spaces that would catapult my brand to the next level…..and that is just what I did.

Not only did I get the chance to be in the same city, building, and atmosphere as THE Michelle Obama, I also got the chance (on behalf of All Things Hair) to experience the ultimate celebration of black beauty at The Essence Beauty Carnival!

Since I was attending an elaborate beauty event, I wanted to make sure my hair and outfit were up-to-par. Check out the look and hairstyle I went with below.

When I stepped into the convention center, I was hit with a sea of eager people waiting to bust through the gates of this popular carnival. As soon as I made my way through the entrance, I totally understood their enthusiasm. It was like I walked into a black woman’s dream - a beauty heaven with products made just for our skin and hair!

I partnered with All Things Hair (an informative hair website that gives great insight for all hair types) and Unilever (the parent company of Suave, Shea Moisture, Dove, Love Beauty, Planet, and Tresemme) to capture the happenings at the Dove Beauty Station. Upon arriving at this station, I immediately felt as though I was at the spa. Everything from foot massages, hair stations, to must-have products were being offered at this station. Ladies were patiently waiting in what seemed like the longest line at the Beauty Carnival to experience the treats the Dove station had to offer.

I got the chance to chat with some of the women waiting in line about their experience with Unilever products. One lady couldn’t wait to get her hands on some Dove soap, stating that it never dries her skin out. Another lady was enthused about Suave conditioner because it left her curls feeling hydrated and full of body.

Another aspect of the Dove beauty station (and one of the best parts in my opinion) was the opportunity to sign the petition for the Hair Discrimination Law. This law prohibits any company from discriminating against an individual because of the choice of their hairstyle. The purpose of The CROWN ACT is to Create a Respectful and Open World for Natural Hair. It addresses the discrimination and unfair grooming policies in schools and workplaces that directly impact black men, women, and children. The Crown Act has been passed in California and has passed the New York Senate and the Assembly. To read more about this act and to sign the petition, click here.

The Beauty Carnival and the overall Essence Festival 2019 experience was overwhelmingly incredible. For more on my experience at this event and to check out my interview on All Things Hair, click here.

Also, if you want to see some more of my Essence Festival style, some videos of the entire weekend/beauty carnival, and a segment of me getting ready for the Essence Beauty Carnival, visit my Instagram page and c!ick on the Essence highlights in my profile and check out my Essence Beauty Carnival x All Things Hair IGTV video!

Peace and Blessings,

- Samjah Iman

Outfit Details: Kimono (Forever 21, sold out) // Someone’s Daughter T-shirt (coming soon!) // White Flared Pants (Swank Blue, sold out)

The post is sponsored by All Things Hair; however, all opinions are my own.

The Answers Are in Your Gut

November 28, 2018 by Samjah Iman in Style

You know that feeling you get in your stomach when you’re in a situation that you know you shouldn’t be in or should be in? I’m not talking about stomach cramps or butterflies. I’m talking about that deep tugging you feel in your gut that causes you to pause and wonder if what you’re feeling on the inside is showing on the outside…..yea that feeling. There are numerous times in my life when I’ve experienced that feeling and ignored it - and of course, I ended up saying, “I should have gone with my gut!” Learning from those moments, I made a vow to never ignore my gut again, and let me tell you all - so far that vow has saved me from a lot of hardships.

Quick Story - a few months ago, I was in the process of trying to become a homeowner. After what seemed like 1,000 searches, I found a nice home that was in my price range….but something wouldn’t allow me to fall in love with it. Instead of listening to that feeling (my intuition), I got advice from several people regarding the home buying process. I asked them if it was normal for me to second guess a home that I was about to purchase. Some brushed my feelings off as jitters since I was about to make one of the biggest investments of my life. Others told me to get the house because it was reasonably priced and nice, and it would eventually grow on me. I went over everyone’s advice in my head, but I still didn’t have the peace I needed to feel totally good about the process. Something was nagging at me internally. I ignored the feeling and concentrated on the fact that I really wanted to become a homeowner so I went forward with the process. I signed a contract, got an inspection done, and was on my way to close the deal. I figured my excitement would grow as the closing date approached - it never did. Actually, the internal nagging grew louder - so loud that my sleep began to be disturbed. I called my mother to explain the feeling I had and her advice was, “listen to that voice inside.” That was all I needed to hear. The next day, I called the entire process off. I lost some money from the inspection and a few other things, but that didn’t bother me one bit. Having peace meant way more to me than losing money.

Words can’t express how grateful and proud of myself I am for paying attention to that persistent feeling inside of me. I’m currently still renting, and I’m totally fine with that because I sleep like a baby at night knowing I made the right decision. A friend once said to me that building equity in your peace is way more important than building equity in a house. Boy was he right.

When something doesn’t feel right in your soul, it usually isn’t right - and vice versa. Trust your gut feeling, it’s there for a reason.

“If prayer is you talking to God, then intuition is God talking to you. ”

— Wayne Dyer

Outfit Details: Top // Leggings // Boots

Voting in Vintage

November 05, 2018 by Samjah Iman in Style

I would be remiss if I didn’t do my part to stress the importance of voting tomorrow and show off this vintage blazer I got for $24! LOL!

Anyway, If you’re following this blog then I already know you are extremely conscious and have all the sense in the world (smile); therefore, voting in the one of the most crucial elections is on your agenda tomorrow. But just in case you’re tripping and thinking about not voting tomorrow, below are five quick reasons that will hopefully get your mind right.

Your life and your family’s lives depend on it. Too much craziness is happening in this world for you not to use your powerful voice.
Trump
Your ancestors went through hell for you to have the right to vote, honor them by using it.
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Voting allows you to decide what will happen with your life regarding laws, healthcare, equal opportunities, etc. Not voting puts the decision in the people’s hands who could care less about our lives.

If these 5 reasons don’t move you to vote, I have a few more that I wrote about here. Check it out.

Also, you can grab a blazer like this vintage one here. And my boots are Steve Madden.

Happy voting loves!

Don't Forget About Your Past Blessings

October 17, 2018 by Samjah Iman in Style

The other day I was agonizing over a few things I’ve been manifesting that have yet to materialize. I felt myself growing frustrated and impatient. I tried to shake the feeling, but it wasn’t going away easily. I even began to think about my plant post from last week for some encouragement. That didn’t help much this time either. I decided to say a silent prayer then let my worries go.

Not too long after doing that, I drove into a parking garage where I was forced to park on the rooftop. I got out the car, and the New Orleans’ skyline hit me dead in my face. I stood there for a second in awe. Not because of the beauty it presented, but because that skyline reminded me of the time in my life when I was praying to live in this place and do exactly what I am doing for a living, and now it’s happening.

After receiving that subtle yet powerful reminder, I quickly got my attitude all the way together. I begin to think about all of the other stuff I had prayed for and gotten. I instantly became encouraged.

Oftentimes when we are in need of something, we tend to get impatient and forget that we were once praying for some of the things we have right now. And if God came through then, He’ll definitely do it again in due time. So the next time you find yourself tripping on what you’re lacking, just take a second and remember the blessings you were once wanting and now have. I guarantee you’ll feel a glimpse of hope about what lies ahead.

Peace and Blessings,

- Samjah Iman

Outfit Details: Felt Hat (sold out, similar here) // High-Waist Skinny Jeans // Crop Top // White Slides // Oversize Blue Jean Dress worn as shirt (sold out, similar here)

Nurture Your Blessings, Starve Your Problems

October 08, 2018 by Samjah Iman in Style

When I received my first house plant, I really didn’t pay too much attention to it because at the time, plants weren’t my thing. I just sat it on my coffee table and watered it every now and then. Even though I neglected the plant, it still grew - just not as fast as it would have had it been nurtured properly.

On the flip side, there are these pesky weed looking plants (or whatever they are) growing in my backyard. I used to pay attention to them daily because I DIDN’T LIKE THEM! I would open my back door often to gaze at them with disgust in hopes that they will just disappear. They didn’t…they actually seemed to have grown bigger at times.

I grew tired of staring at those weed looking plants. But since getting rid of the plants was out of my control (too many bugs back there plus I’m currently renting), I decided not to give them my attention anymore. I began concentrating on my house plant. I talked to it, positioned it to receive sunlight, and watered it on a weekly basis. And sure enough it began to really sprout. The more I nurtured that plant, the more it grew. And as for the weed looking plants, they are still back there. They just don’t bother me as much anymore because I stop giving them life.

Ladies and gents, the method I applied to my house plant and those weed looking plants can be applied to our real life blessings and problems. What we nurture grows and what we starve doesn’t.

It’s a known fact that whatever we give your attention to expands. If we are constantly concentrating on the negative things going on in our lives, that will become our focal point and that is what we will continue to attract. But if we concentrate on the positive things we have going on, then that becomes our main priority and in turn our spirits will be lifted. We will then create a habit of looking for the blessing in all situations which will eventually lead to attracting more blessings.

Let’s work on watering our blessings and starving our problems. The issues probably won’t go away completely, but at least the beauty of the blessings will overpower them.

Watering my blessings,

- Samjah Iman

Outfit Details: Boots // Top // Jeans // Sweater

All You Have to do is Just Be

September 13, 2018 by Samjah Iman in Style

As soon as you log into your email each morning or on your social media accounts, messages like get money, hustle hard, stay on the grind, hurry up and succeed, are pushed in your face. I totally get those messages, am sometimes motivated by those messages, and have even emailed/posted those types of messages in the past as well. However, I woke up the other morning and said that on that day (and the days to come) I will just be. I won't be hard on myself, I won't try to overachieve, I won't let the world or internet rush me or tell me what success should look like. I will just simply just be present, do the work my way, and let the chips fall where they may.

Sometimes we need to take all of that stress off of our shoulders from the world, get a clear picture in our heads of how success looks to us, and just be. Be in the moment, be in spirit, be appreciative, be reflective, be content, be patient and everything will come together. Let the pressure of succeeding and the world go sometimes. This is your own race, no one else's. Just be.

Outfit Details: T-shirt // Neon Pumps

When I'm Consistent, The Universe Responds

June 27, 2018 by Samjah Iman in 70s Fashion, Style

I'm often asked what my end game is. When I'm introduced to people, and we discuss our passions/careers, they always end up asking me what I would like this blog to ultimately turn into. About a month ago I linked up with some accomplished colleagues who enthusiastically discussed their future entrepreneurship "end game" plans while we ate lunch. Everyone took turns revealing their blueprint to success, and when my turn came to discuss my "end game" I simply said, "I don't have one. I'm just doing what I love and floating." Of course that wasn't the answer they were looking for, but it was my truth. I didn't and still don't have an "end game."

After the lunch encounter, my mind became occupied with the whole "end game" situation. I was thinking that maybe I should have some sort of plan for this blog and my fashion. Yes I love writing/reading and wouldn't mind being an editor/content manager for a popular magazine one day. I also love fashion and wouldn't mind becoming a buyer for a savvy clothing brand as well; however, I wouldn't consider the aforementioned aspirations my "end game" goals. I called my loved one to discuss the "end game" plan thing, and as I was talking, it came to me....I said, "you know what, scratch this whole convo, I don't have to search for an "end game" goal, it'll be revealed sooner or later."

“When I’m consistent, the universe responds.”

— Samjah Iman

The growth of this blog had a lot to do with me being consistent and having a true affinity for my work - and in turn, the universe opened up many doors. When you do what you are passionate about doing just for the sake and love of doing it, good things will eventually come. This theory is tied to the whole "you get out of it what you put in it" truism. I truly believe that if you are continuously sowing good seeds, doing the work, and putting positive energy in the atmosphere....good things will come your way and your "end game" goal will eventually fall in your lap. When you love and nurture something, it has no choice but to grow.

“Everything I’ve done has grown simply from refining and cultivating it as opposed to aiming it in a particular direction. ”

— Nesby Phips

I'm discovering day by day that it's okay to not have an "end game" plan all the time. I remember Oprah once saying to just do what you love and the money will come. Those words have sat in my pysche and heart forever. I live by them. As long as I continue to put my soul into my work and be as consistent as possible, I won't have to chase the "end game," it will find me.

Trusting the process and letting the universe do its thing,

-Samjah Iman

Side Note: I got this dress for a Girl Boss Dinner in Nola. I was in need of cocktail attire, and I didn't want the ordinary look. I contacted Washington Ave because I knew they would have a funky, unique vintage ensemble that I would like, and they did! Shoes available here.