Use Your Core

I’m still here. I’ve been doing a lot of writing for Hello Beautiful (yay!) which has been taking up the majority of my creative time. I’m flowing, not forcing things, and not crowding up my schedule these days. I’ve fallen in love with my new-found flexibility, and it’s making life more peaceful for me. It has taken me yeeeeaaarrrrssss to get to this place in my life, and I’m grateful.

Another thing that has been tremendously working for me is yoga. I know I’ve spoken about my yoga practice on here before, but during this time in my life I’m even more dedicated to it. It’s like a religion to me now. I practice it 3 times a week with a yogi (Black Yoga Bae) and 6 to 7 times a week on my own. In class, one of the main things my yoga teacher repeats constantly is, “use your core”. Whenever we are struggling to make a pose work or make our body move in an unfamiliar way, she emphasizes how using our core will help us conquer the feat. She is right. Because every time I go to pick myself up from a low lunge to Warrior 3 pose, it’s my core that supports and guides me. It’s amazing how when I don’t use my core, I struggle to get into position. But when I do rely on my core, it’s much easier to transition to the next pose. This truth also applies to my life.

Outfit Details: Tee // Jeans // Purse (Free People, old)

My center holds all the answers. It’s where my creator resides. When I make moves without being led by my core, I’m shaky. But when I allow my core to lead me, I’m unwavering and firm in my decision and purpose.

Strength and wisdom live in our core, and when we use it to sustain or guide us in any move we make we’re in alignment. This doesn’t mean the move won’t be uncomfortable or we won’t stumble at times, it means that we are cultivating our inner power, exercising our control, and strengthening our endurance. The core is where it’s at. Use it.

Peace and Blessings,

- Samjah Iman

In case you missed these…..

Outfit Details: Dress // Shoes (old, Steve Madden)

Outfit Details: Tee // Nikes (old) // Jeans (American Eagle, old)

Also, if you want to check out some of my work on Hello Beautiful, a few links are below. Thank you!

How Misa Hylton Became Global Creative Partner For MCM | Misa Hylton: From Bad Boy Stylist To Global Creative Partner For MCM | HelloBeautiful

Zuri Hall talks Hot Happy Mess podcast, beauty and fashion | HelloBeautiful

#BlackTwitter’s Hilarious Reaction To Telfar’s Sold Out ‘Azalea’ Bag | HelloBeautiful

Quarantine Confession...

I have a confession. I think I may have played a part in conjuring up this crisis we are currently in *nervously bites nails*. I know, I know….I apologize! You see…I’m working on this manifestation thing, and I’m still learning how to be precise with the universe. But just hear me out before you plot my demise, okay?

About a month ago I was over everything that drained my energy. Men were getting on my last nerve, and the world was too loud for my central system. So I cried out to the universe (God), Mary, Joseph, Peter, friends, strangers, the trees, my ancestors, and whoever would listen and asked for a break. I repeatedly said I needed a break from men and the world. I said it so much that it was all I thought about. The next thing I knew the world started shutting down, and everyone was forced to watch the pandemonium unfold behind their sanitized doors. At first I didn’t connect my wishes to what was going on, but a question from a friend made me realize that my plead had been heard.

In an effort to look at the bright side of our current crisis, my friend decided to ask her social media followers what positive things were happening as a result of being quarantined. She stated that she had finally met her neighbor after being in her house for quite some time. Another person stated that they were able to spend more time with their kid. I’m an introvert so it didn’t take me long to come up with several positive things that have transpired during my quarantine. Hell, I self-quarantine every chance I get when the world is normal. But I decided to think beyond the surface before I answered the question….and it came to me. This quarantine gave me the break I had been manifesting since January.

I’ve been vowing to slow down since 2019, but every time I turned around something or someone was in my face. Being that I get my energy from solitude and there was no solitude happening in my world, I was internally drowning. I didn’t have time to sort things out or to make the best decisions because I felt overwhelmed. Creating was pushed to the back burner and dating even became a burden. I wanted a timeout so bad that I confessed to a gentleman, while sitting across from him on a date, that I needed a break from him and any species that resembled him. I was meeting this person over here, going to several events, taking a picture in between, and responding to requests, emails, texts, calls, and inquiries on top of all those things. IT WAS ABSOLUTELY TOO MUCH! So slowly I began to clear my schedule, but I wasn’t doing the best job at it; therefore, I asked for help. And boy did I get it!!

Although the reason behind this quarantine truly sucks, I can’t help but express my sincere gratitude for it. Not only am I completing a lot of tasks, I’m also getting that much-needed time to sort through some thoughts and feelings. My mindset is shifting. I’m relearning some things. I’m having essential, detailed conversations and enjoying the process of gradual maturation. When this is all said and done, I think I’m going to have an interesting story to share. Stay tuned y’all.

Quarantining and Smiling,

- Samjah Iman

Outfit Details: Relationship Pending Tee // Flare Pants

Photo Credit: 87 Photography

Sisters, How Y'all Feel? Brothers, Y'all Alright?

Whew! This world has turned upside down in just a few shorts days, and I’m still trying to figure out when Black History month left the scene! Too much and not enough is happening right now. A lot of people are scared, confused, and anxious at the moment. I get it. That’s why I wanted to drop in real quick to see how everyone is holding up and to throw some good energy and inspiration your way. Let’s jump in below.

THE LATEST ON AS SAM’S WORLD TURNS….

1. What I’ve Been Monitoring - I’m keeping abreast of the crisis unfolding right before our eyes, but I’m making sure to feed my mind and spirit with positive things to counter all the scary news. I’ve been watching funny and inspirational YouTube videos, and I’m taking the time to catch up on some interesting shows on television. Right now the Hillary Clinton series on Hulu has my attention. It’s a documentation of her journey from childhood to now. It’s cool to see how she navigated the world under all the circumstances she has encountered. It’s also interesting to see her and Bill’s true life behind the political doors. I also just finished watching the latest season of Grown-ish. Yes it’s a college show, but the writing and story lines are actually compelling, relatable, and relevant. Oh and the fashion…..whoever the wardrobe stylist is for this show has my heart!! I get tons of style inspiration from all the characters!

2. What I’ve Been Reading - In the midst of all the chaos and the unknown, the one thing you can control is your mind. I’m forever working on training my thoughts and perspective. So when my girl recommended The Power Of Your Subconscious Mind by Joseph Murphy in our group chat, I jumped on purchasing the book. I just cracked it open, but from what I can tell it will definitely be beneficial to my journey. I recently created a reading nook in my home, so I’m excited to snuggle up with this book in that designated area.

3. What I’ve Been Listening To - A Written Testimony by Jay Electronica!!! I’ve not only been listening to this album, I’ve been studying it as well. That is what real hip hop does to me….it forces me to grow, discover, learn, and have in-depth conversations. Each time I listen to this album I catch something I didn’t hear the previous time. Jay Electronica has been in the rap game for a minute; yet, it took him SEVERAL years before he dropped his studio album…..and it was definitely worth the wait. The moral of this story to me is - everything in due time. Just make sure in the meantime, while you’re waiting for your moment, you’re picking up gems and exercising your mind and faith so that you can come correct with whatever you set out to do. Congrats Jay!!!!

4. What I’ve Been Wearing - It seems comfortable will be a reoccurring theme in my spring/summer wardrobe. Anything flowing, stretchy, or loose - bring it my way!!! Minimalism is my thing. The less I have to deal with, the more comfortable I am….and that goes for fashion and life.

5. What I’m Working On - Y’all, it’s so hard for me to stay out of this peanut head of mine!!!! I’m trying my best not to over analyze and deep dive into certain things. I sometimes can’t enjoy a simple moment without trying to discover the underlying cause of the moment lol. I’m working on this aspect of myself, but it’s hard to combat this issue being that I am a true Aquarius and that I was raised to think critically. The best practices that have remedied this habit for me have been participating in mindless activities. When I find myself overthinking, I tune into someone else’s life via a book or television. Or, I write it out. I’m bearing with myself though, because I know I’m a work in progress.

6. Quote For The Week - I had a conversation with my mother the other day about how difficult it is to be a righteous person (defined by my own terms) who tunes out the world and does what’s best for them. I won’t lie, I get tired of trying to be who I’m supposed to be in a world that doesn’t celebrate individuality and authenticity. Her reply was something that I already knew but had to hear again. She said, “Always try to do a difficult right (what’s in your spirit) instead of an easy wrong (the thing that isn’t in your spirit). Doing what’s right is like getting rid of the debt upfront, Doing the wrong thing is letting the debt collect over time.” We got to continue to pay it up front y’all.

“The hardest thing to do is to be true to yourself, especially when everybody is watching.”

— Dave Chappelle

Everyone, please remain vigilant and safe out here. This virus thing is serious business; however, when I rode my bike the other day through the empty streets of New Orleans, I couldn’t help but smile. Yes I’m concerned about those who have been directly and indirectly affected by this crisis, but at the same time I’m enjoying this downtime. It’s peaceful. The world seems so motionless right now, and sometimes that in itself is the cure to whatever has been disrupted….stillness.

Being still,

- Samjah Iman

Outfit Details: T-shirt // Biker Shorts // Thigh-High Boots (My entire outfit came from Forever 21…yes even the boots!)

Photo Credit: 87 Photography 

What I'm No Longer Praying For in the Midst of Chaos…

I remember being trapped in a horrible job situation or at a low point in life and feverishly praying for things to get better quickly, and all I got in return was the same situation…day after day. Of course we don’t get everything we pray for, for a reason, but that doesn’t stop the disappointment or frustration that comes with the wait. When going through burdensome times, I would often ask religious people how to pray, and some would tell me I had to constantly ask God for what I wanted. Others would advise me to tell God what I desired once, and patiently wait for the results. I tried both ways…..and I still felt out of alignment with prayer.

I believe that everything happens in due time, but the prayer situation still boggles my mind from time to time. So in an effort to ease some of my confusion, I talked to my mother about my concerns. She expressed that she had been having the same questions herself. She told me that she could remember as a youngster praying every single night, pleading with God to end the Vietnam War. Her prayers were eventually answered, 10 YEARS LATER.

I am an extremely spiritual person, and I wholeheartedly believe in the power of prayer. I also believe God gave us the tools we need to bring forth what we desire; hence manifestation. But when someone is going through tough times, they don’t want to wait 10 years, 10 months, or even 10 minutes for their prayers to be answered. So after praying for some of the same things every single night without results, I felt the need to shift my prayer perspective. I’d been feeling this way for a while, and because I was ready to receive some guidance on this matter….it came.

During one of my usual Sunday morning rituals, I was searching for some teachings on YouTube when I ran across a TD Jakes’ sermon. I can’t remember what the entire sermon was about, but he definitely said some words that gave me the insight I was seeking. He spoke about Noah’s ark and how it rained for 40 days and 40 nights. He related that to the current struggles people go through and how they wait everyday to be released from them. And his advice for that was, “get comfortable and ride it out.” It was a “duh Sam!” moment for me. Jakes was basically saying, instead of constantly agonizing over your situation - just roll with it until it shifts. Of course it’s not that simple to do when you’re experiencing hardship, but it’s the best thing you can do at the moment because you’re in the storm for a reason. And if you endure, you will come out greater than you were before you went in. But you have to go through the process to get to the other side - no matter how long it takes. And if you abort the process too early, you may not reach your full potential. TD Jakes’ words reminded me of a line I read in The TAO of WU (thanks for the book recommendation Chris!). In that book, Rza (founding Wu-tang member) said that through experience he learned to trust chaos and confusion instead of judging it, fearing it, or trying to reach an immediate solution. He said that this was not only his secret to production, it’s also the secret to life. After listening to Jakes and reflecting on Rza’s words, everything began to make sense. Instead of trying to pray my way out of storms, I will accept what is, ride it out, and stay in alignment. Because the last thing I want to do is disrupt any incubation process that I am supposed to undergo in order to reach the next step of wisdom or blessings. I will no longer pray for storms to end, things to begin, or things to turn around. I will visualize the outcome I want, stay fixated on that vision, ask God to keep me in alignment, change my perspective, and bless me with the strength to hang in there until my shift comes. Remember, when you grapple with something it rebels, when you leave it alone it flows.

Both the beauty and scary part of life is that we don’t know what it will bring. However, what we do know is positive things will happen as will chaos. My prayer for you all and myself is that more positive shows up in our lives than chaos. And when the chaos comes, I pray that we trust it and view it as a breeding process necessary for our growth. May God grant us the endurance we need to ride these waves until calmer waters come.

Wave surfing,

- Samjah Iman

Outfit Details: Vintage Blazer // Jeans // Heels (old, similar here) // Purse (my mother’s closet)

Photography Credit: 87 Photography 

Come Back To The Middle

“Are you afraid of what CAN happen or what HAS happened?” That’s the question this young man slapped me in the face with as we sat in his living room and dissected my past relationships over veggie pizza and red wine. After he asked the question, I just sat there with my expression twisted as I looked in his eyes. I’m usually quick on the draw in situations such as this, but I was stumped. I took a sip of my wine to stall the conversation, then I asked him to repeat the question knowing damn well I heard it loud and clear. He obliged my request, and I still didn’t have an answer. After several seconds of silence coupled with immodest gulps of wine, I had an “aha” moment. I pried my wine glass away from my lips and finally responded with this, “actually….the question you just asked me made me realize that my fear doesn’t make sense. Because the past is over, and I have no idea what’s to come in the future. All I have is the middle…the moment. So what am I scared of?!”

I told you all last month that my most important lessons are resonating with me on a deeper level these days. And I don’t know if my chakras were working overtime or if the other elements in the room were kicking in - but when I was hit with the above-mentioned question, everything made perfect sense. The reason I was stumped and couldn’t answer the question was because I had no justification for the fear we were discussing. The past is over, and the future isn’t here yet. All I have is the time in between the past and the future, and that’s the middle. And in the moment, in the middle, I was good! I am good. The question I was asked reminded me of an Erykah Badu interview I read years ago. During this interview she was talking about renouncing fear. She stated that she noticed her anxiety and fear come when she is thinking about something that happened in the past or something that hasn’t even happened yet. But when she stays in the moment (or in the middle as I call it), she’s chill.

It’s so easy to be paralyzed by past occurrences and things we THINK will happen. Some people structure their lives according to those two instances. But when you stop and think about it, it’s absurd to base your now on a situation or situations that aren’t coming back and off an uncertain future. Every now and then I find myself getting caught up in what happened before or what can possibly happen going forward. Over 90% of my worries come from what history has shown me or what I have told myself might happen, when the truth of the matter is - none of those things are happening right now. And if either of them ever do, I’ll deal with it at that time.

I truly understand how one can rob him or herself of a moment or opportunity just by conjuring up past events or by letting their mind drift off into “what if” world. Of course it’s smart for me to be mindful and cautious, but I’m going to try my best not to let a past situation or “what if” situation that’s not even active ruin what currently is. The past is gone, and the future is uncertain….the middle is where it’s at. I’m staying there.

In the Middle,

- Samjah Iman

Outfit Details: African Print Bijou Patchwork Crop Top // Skirt (Old) // Neon Pumps (specific color sold out, other colors here)

Photo Credit: 87 Photography

20 Hard Lessons I Had to Learn....

It’s my 38th year on earth. I’m blessed. Birthdays are becoming more of an intimate celebration for me. I don’t need the parties or all the hoopla. I just need a moment to first be grateful, then to reflect on how far I’ve come. It’s amazing how time does what it does regardless of what is happening around us. At one point in my life I thought my confusing teenage years would never end, now look at me - 38 years old and still trying to figure shit out.

There have been some waves to ride on this journey to 38. I’ve had some beautiful times that have left me in pure awe and bliss, and I’ve encountered some rough patches that had me side eyeing God like, “Really??” But through it all I’ve gained some valuable lessons that I hold close to me, and I’m on a quest for more wisdom.

I’d be remiss if I didn’t share the knowledge I’ve been gifted with over the years with you guys. So I looked through some of my journals, and pulled 20 hard lessons I learned throughout my journey. I refer to them as hard lessons because I’m still learning most of them. Now keep in mind that these lessons are tailored to my experiences. However, feel free to take away whatever you may need. Let’s jump into them below.

20 Hard Lessons I Had to Learn

1. Blaming other people for your mishaps and poor decisions is futile. Learn from past mistakes, forgive yourself, move the hell on, and be prepared to make some new mistakes. That’s how you gain wisdom, Sam.

2. Your intuition is the most valuable asset you possess. Use it, use it some more, and use it again. The more you use it, the stronger it becomes. The more you ignore it, the more faint it becomes.

3. Believe what he shows you, not what he says.

4. You’re always going to be learning. Gaining knowledge and wisdom never ceases. In fact, the more you know - the more confused you may be.

5. You only have a few friends…just a few. The older you get, the less you will have - and that’s okay.

6. Talk to your loved ones (especially your parents) as often as you can. They don’t stay around forever. You won’t either.

7. Always ask yourself if you are living for you or for someone else. Peer pressure is real and can distort even the most confident person’s view.

8. Save more money girl. Life is full a surprises and some of them cost a fortune.

9. Vulnerability is actually a sign of strength. Open your heart. It’s a courageous act.

10. This too shall pass.

11. Gather your thoughts before you speak in a heated discussion. It’s easier to do damage than to undo it.

12. Breathe…..just breathe. Take deep breaths. They really help.

13. Try to always operate in a state of gratefulness. It helps make life a little easier.

14. Deep connections energize you. Keep seeking them.

15. Your alone time is non-negotiable. It revitalizes you. It nurtures your spirit. Don’t ever let anyone infringe upon that…..no matter how cute they are lol.

16. Understand that other people are fighting battles too. Sometimes their decisions have nothing to do with you but everything to do with their experiences, situations, fears etc. Get over yourself.

17. Don’t be afraid to take chances. At the least you’ll have an interesting story to tell.

18. Stop looking, and you’ll find it.

19. You are going to be pissed off at yourself in the future if you look back and see that you dimmed your light. To avoid a mid-life crisis, be who you are fully meant to be right now.

20. Listen more than you talk. Sometimes if you let the other person do the talking, you’ll learn everything you need to know without having to seek.

Thank you guys for sharing this journey with me. I appreciate you all and this platform to express my thoughts and feelings more than you know! My heart is full.

Peace and Blessings,

- Samjah Iman

Outfit Details: Joggers // Sweatshirt (Similar color)// Pumps

Photo Credit: Corey Anthony

The Briefing

I’ve been in three different cities in the last week. I have two different cities to visit in the middle of this week and one next week. Tired doesn’t adequately describe how I feel right now, but I’m pushing through because I know there’s something on the other side of this grind that will be more than rewarding for me and the people in my circle. Because I urgently need some rest and relaxation in my life, I’m not going to keep you all long. I’m laying out a somewhat quick summation of what I’ve been moved by and feeding off of the last two weeks in hopes of passing on some good information to you guys. Let’s jump into the briefing below.

What I’m Currently Feeding My Mind - Podcasts have been getting me through these road trips and grind sessions. I religiously tune into the David Banner Podcast for good laughs and enlightening information. Banner and his crew love to kid around often on the podcast, but they haven’t failed me yet when it comes to interviewing interesting guests and providing solid motivation. The other day I listened to his two-part interview with rapper, songwriter, and music producer THE D.O.C. I literally soaked up every word! His story was inspiring and unique. He talks about his tumultuous, yet triumphant journey through his career, how his spirituality has evolved because of it, and how he learned from life’s ebbs and flows. He even touched on him and my girl Erykah Badu’s relationship! Check the episodes out here…. (part 1 and part 2) - at the least you’ll definitely be entertained.

Another podcast that has my attention is a series called Making Beyoncé on WBEZ Chicago. It tells the story of Beyoncé’s career from her childhood to her adulthood. You’ve probably heard Bey’s story a hundred times before, but this is a little different. The perspective of this story comes from the people she encountered in the music industry, her past group mate, and her father. Listening to this podcast was uplifting and empowering. It inspired me to keep going even when everything around you says stop. You can say what you want about Beyoncé, but you can’t say that woman hasn’t earned her accolades. Check it out here.

Some Good Advice I Received - I was letting my playlist do its thing while driving the other day, and it pleasantly surprised me with an oldie but goodie - Feng Shui by Gnarls Barkley (hadn’t heard this album in a minute - man I miss good, eccentric music). As soon as the lyrics started coming through the speakers, my attention was peaked…..“In this house the decor is the obvious obscure. See clearly the theory of less is more………..and you’re welcome to stay, but even your company must complement the feng shui.” I’ve been on this “less is more” lifestyle lately, and it’s very cleansing - so hearing this song was like a sign assuring me that I was on the right path. I’m clearing out unnecessary things in order to feel lighter. And when I heard Gnarls’ line “even your company must complement the feng shui,” I realized that not only do I need to clear some things out of my head, heart, space, etc., I also need to make sure the people who surround me or who try to come in my house ( i.e. my heart, my life, my space, etc.) must match my vibe and energy. Thanks Gnarls.

What I’m Working On - Another thing I’m working on besides clearing my space is moving to my own beat. I’m extremely conscious and focused on making sure almost everything I’m doing is aligned with my wants, aspirations, and needs. When it’s all said and done, I want to make sure I lived my life for me and no one else. I want to be able to take full responsibility for all of my choices and actions. I want to do things not because others think I should, but because I choose to. My goal is to continue to operate in authenticity - no matter how that looks.

My Quote Of The Week - “The truth bangs harder. We learn that the more we tell it.” - Saul Williams - It isn’t always easy to tell or live in truth, but it is extremely liberating when we do it - EXTREMELY.

My Current Fashion Obsessions - I am totally into my white boots. I purchased an off white pair (that I still wear) last year, but this year I’m into the whitest of the white boots. They pop so well with dark colors, and there’s something about them that polishes up a look and gives it a crisp vibe. Check out how I styled my white booties below.

Oh, I’m also digging my Teddy Coat from Shein. It’s so comfortable and warm! It also adds a funkiness to any look whether it be a dressed up or down look. Check that out below as well.

Picture Credit: Felicia T. Simpson

Picture Credit: 87 Photography

Until the next time,

- Samjah Iman

Outfit Details: Black Jumper (available in-store only) // Black and White Earrings (available in-store only) // White Booties // Teddy Coat // Dr. Martens Patent Leather Boots // Fanny Pack

Clear Your Plate First

It’s Thanksgiving, and my mother’s famous dressing is calling my name. When I was younger, I couldn’t wait for the holidays to roll around because I knew some good cooking was in order. My mother would reach deep down in her southern/western roots and turn the kitchen out on holidays like Thanksgiving. We would have all kinds of food like mustard greens, rolls, fresh green beans, Cornish hens, fried turkey, potato salad, etc. and my one of my favorite desserts - sweet potato pie. I would rush to the kitchen as soon as I heard the “food is ready” announcement. I would see the spread of eats propped on the counter, and my eyes would widen with anticipation. My stomach would literally growl at the smell and sight. I would snatch my plate off the counter and commence to piling every entrée and side dish I saw on it. When I felt I had everything my tummy desired, I would head to the dinner table so the feasting could begin. And right when I was about to lift the fork to my mouth, I would see my brother or father come to the table with a dish that I must’ve overlooked. Not wanting to leave any food unclaimed, I would jump right back up from the table to go grab the omitted dish. But before I could wrap my little hand around the serving spoon to get my gigantic helping, my mother would catch me and say, “Sam, eat what’s on your plate first then see if you have room for something else.”

Yup, my eyes were definitely bigger than my stomach as a child. And it seems I sometimes still suffer from that same issue today when it comes to work. I’m learning all over again to “eat what’s on my plate” before I take on another dish. The last few months have had my head spinning in multiple directions, and it’s all my fault. You see, I’ve been enticed by the dollars that have been sitting on the counter waiting to be grabbed and that has led me to take on project after project. And when it’s all said and done, I’m left with a plate full of food and no appetite.

You know how you feel when you overeat? That’s how taking on more than I can handle feels to me. It’s like I’m continuously pushing food in my mouth even though I’m already chewing on a wad of bread - it’s pure gluttony. Having too much on plate results in me stuffing myself which then turns into exhaustion, regret, and heaviness. I’m also not able to give each task/dish my undivided attention because I’m constantly thinking about the next task/dish and trying to clear my plate in a hurry so I don’t miss out on anything else. I’m definitely learning my lesson though, and all it took was for me to reflect on that simple directive my mother gave to me in the kitchen on holidays. When I begin to clear my plate before I take on any other tasks, I’m able to be more focused, take my time, and produce my best work. I’m no longer letting my greed overpower my needs. I eat what I have and only get seconds if there’s room.

Eating what’s in front of me,

- Samjah Iman

Wishing everyone a very happy and safe Thanksgiving! I’m grateful for each and every person who has visited and will visit this blog and those who leave comments. I sincerely appreciate you all!

P.S. - Oh and yes that is a coat that I wore as a dress….hey, a girl has got to be innovative with this fashion thing, you feel me?!

xoxo

Photo Credit: 87 Photography

Outfit Details: Vintage Leather Coat // Black Leather Booties (Zara, sold out - similar here)

Adjustments

The weather here in Louisiana does whatever the hell it wants to do. One day you’re pulling out your shorts and sandals in anticipation of a festival, and the next day you’re wrapped up like rice and beans in a burrito. Just this past weekend I was rocking leggings and a top sans coat, and yesterday I had on almost every clothing article I own in an effort to block the chill. Even though this unpredictable forecast makes it hard to plan ahead when it comes to outfits, I don’t complain. Because being a life-long Louisianian, I’m used to the inconsistent weather (especially during this time of year). And as I was turning off my air conditioner (once again) the other day preparing to adjust to the cold, I thought about how such is life - adjustments.

I no longer wait for life to adjust to me, I adjust to it. If life throws me a little more than what I ask for, I get a bigger glove to catch it all. If life wants to take its time, I slow down and rest right along with it. Not adjusting to life’s shenanigans and going against the grain when everything else around you is changing is like refusing to wear a coat in 20 degree weather because you’re mad the temperature dropped…a total unnecessary struggle.

Making adjustments is a part of life. They aren’t always easy to do, but in order for us to get to the next level, we must constantly adapt and adjust. In most cases I’m faced with two choices when a situation arises- I can either complain that it’s happening, or I can adjust my vibrations/position/attitude to adapt and move forward. Of course the complaining won’t get me anywhere, but the adjustments eventually will. Because with each adjustment comes a little more strength, a little more perseverance, and a little more wisdom. It’s just like playing chess or a sport. If your opponent (life) makes one move, you don’t just stand there and complain because they did it, you make a move too. And the more moves you make, the better you get. And the better you become, the more victories you’ll have.

“The pessimist complains about the wind. The optimist expects it to change. The leader adjusts the sails.”

— John Maxwell

Adjusting,

- Samjah Iman

Outfit Details: Top (Zara, in store only) // Jeans // Hat // Mules

Photo Credit: 87 Photography

Are You The Composer?

I’ve been having a few conversations with my loved ones about living authentically and how important, yet rare it is for some people to do. The convos forced me to juxtapose my vision with the vision society/social media says I should have. I thought about the businesses Instagram tells me I should be starting and how hard I should be hustling. I thought about the standards being forced in my face everyday. I thought about where society/social media says I should be at my age, then I thought about the goals I have for myself. All of my thinking prompted me to ask myself if my vision was solely mine or one that had been cultivated by all the propaganda thrown at me daily. What portion of my dreams comes from my true desires and what portion comes from societal/social media ideologies? I thought deeply about my likes and dislikes, my wants, my aspirations, etc., and I’m slowly coming to this conclusion…..I don’t have to have half of the stuff society/social media says I should want. I’m good with living the simplest life if that means I get to live in my truth.

We are currently in a time where if you’re not striving for a certain type of relationship/family, constantly traveling all over the world, owning your own business, buying over-the-top houses, fancy cars, or living lavishly - you’re viewed as unaccomplished. So many people are being enveloped by society’s/social media’s perception of life that they aren’t in touch with their own aspirations anymore. When was the last time you stopped and asked yourself what type of life you really wanted? What makes you really happy? That’s the phase I’m currently in. I’m trying to weed out the noise in order to make sure my life is aligned with what I deem as happiness, not someone else’s definition.

Believe or not, I’ve tried living out other people’s fantasies for my life. And each time I did it, you better believe it didn’t prosper. I tried the “let me work this job that doesn’t nurture my talents but it’s secure” phase, and it eventually led to a breaking point. I tried the “everyday I’m hustling” and “let me try to own several businesses” phase, and since that wasn’t what was in my spirit - I was constantly burnt out, stressed, and uninspired. It wasn’t until I got totally real with myself and my desires that I discovered the world’s standards don’t fit my vibe at all, but my truth (no matter how simple it may be) brings me harmony. I don’t have to have a thriving business, a luxurious vehicle, or the biggest bank account in the world. I just have to have my type of fulfillment. And for me, that doesn’t come from living how society/social media says I should, it comes from living how I want to live.

Are you the composer of your life or just the translator of the song someone else wrote for you?

In my truth,

- Samjah Iman

Style Tip: Blazers are one of the most convenient staples you can have in your closet. They can be dressed up or down, and they can spice up any mediocre look. Get you some blazers asap! The Goodwill has plenty of them for super low prices!

Outfit Details: Vintage Blazer // Vintage Gucci // Short Jumpsuit // Adidas

Photo Credit: 87 Photography

10 Ways I'm Managing Stress

Listen…stress has been trying to be my best friend since the end of last year. Every time I turn around it’s all up in my space, threatening me with its heavy burdens. The other afternoon I made plans to head home immediately after I finished my work, change into some workout clothes, and get to my exercise class on time. Well…..I did make it home, but I didn’t get a chance to put on any workout clothes. As soon as I stepped over my threshold, I was greeted with water all over my kitchen and living room floor - saturating my beautiful rugs and internet router. My first reaction was “are you kidding me!?”….and I let myself have that moment. Then I exercised one of my stress-fighting tactics and looked on the bright side. I began to think about the other tragic things that could have happen but didn’t. My mood was instantly lifted, and I began to rectify the situation as best as I could.

Chaos doesn’t stop. Life will continuously happen. Just as the sun comes up, it’s a pretty good chance some crap will come up with it. Therefore we must learn how to manage most of our stress because life is on a roll, and it’s not slowing down any time soon. In case you’re still struggling with ways to control your stress, maybe some of the 10 tactics I’m using to manage my stress will give you ideas. Check it out below.

1. I’m not viewing everything as a stressful situation - At one point in my life, every bump in the road seemed like a stressful situation BECAUSE I MADE IT ONE!!! I would often make a small issue bigger than it needed to be. Now days, if it’s something that hasn’t harmed me or my loved ones or jeopardized my livelihood, I take it with a grain of salt. Delayed flight? No worries, I’ll get there when I’m supposed to. Missed opportunity? It wasn’t meant. Late getting to an event to no fault of my own? Guess I wasn’t supposed to be there at a certain time. It’s too many inconveniences happening throughout the day to make a big fuss about all of them. So when it comes to this stress thing, I’m choosing my battles wisely.

2. Sometimes I do nothing - Every now and then I stress myself out more when I try to find a solution to an already stressful situation. These days, if it’s out of my control, I try to leave it alone and let it work itself out. When we take our hands off of certain situations, the Creator then intervenes on our behalf. This is where the serenity prayer comes in handy (google it if you need to).

3. I’m being grateful - When something crazy happens, I always try to be grateful for the simple fact that it could have been worse. I think about people who’ve gone through far more trying times, and suddenly my problems seem trivial. Gratitude forces me to nix my complaining and count my blessings.

4. I give myself a moment - We get so caught up in trying to be the ultimate positive person that we forget we are real humans with real emotions. Sometimes when we are hit with an unfamiliar occurrence, our first reaction is not always zen-filled. And my advice is to give yourself a moment to express your authentic feelings towards any stressful situation. Allow yourself to be human. If you’re mad, be mad. If you need to cry, cry. Holding in frustration and faking the funk will only lead to more stressful feelings internally. So have your moment, give yourself the space and time to feel whatever you need to feel, then move forward. Releasing your true feelings is like releasing toxins from your body…..it’s good for your internal system. It’s nothing wrong with expressing true emotions, just don’t dwell in that emotional space.

5. I laugh at some of my problems - Of course not all problems are laughable, but the ones that don’t wreck havoc get a chuckle or two from me. This reminds me not to take life too seriously. It also reminds me that I’m way more powerful than the problem at hand.

6. I go to hot yoga class like it’s church - Going to my hot yoga class has truly done wonders for my stress levels. Yoga emphasizes the importance of relying on your breathing in every pose/situation. This practice forces me to be calm, still, in the moment, and patient. Being in the moment is half the battle when it comes to managing stress. To sum up a message from my girl Erykah Badu, most stress comes from thinking about the past or thinking about what’s to come….and we don’t have either. All we have is now. So with the help of yoga, I’m able to be more mentally discipline and hone in on the present.

7. I look for the lesson and/or blessing - When a stressful situation arises I take the time to feel my emotions, grasp what’s going on, and then I ask myself, “What can I learn from this?” or “What good thing came out of this?” Almost every time I ask myself those questions, I get an answer because I’m seeking one. When you look for the good, it always shows up.

8. I listen to jazz - Music is like food to me. It fuels me. And when I seek calmness, one of my go-to music genres is jazz. Jazz is medicine for my soul. It’s soothing to my ears and mind. Jazz has a way of smoothing any mood out, and this is especially helpful during difficult times.

9. I rest in the fact that it will pass - My favorite mantra I reference often is, “This too shall pass.” With a little time and a lot patience, whatever I’m dealing with will pass. When a problem arises, I return to this mantra. I also recall all of the past problems I’ve had, and I think about how I got over them. And I know this one will not be any different.

10. I get it off my chest - Sometimes you just have to hear yourself talk about your issues. Getting it off your chest or discussing your issues with loved ones is another way to manage your stressful situations. A listening ear is valuable, and sometimes just by hearing ourselves talk about our problems out loud we began to feel better or find a solution on our own. And if you prefer not to talk to anyone about your problems, release your frustrations on paper. Lingering stress is equivalent to having an infection in your body. You have to get it out or else it will fester and turn into something worse.

There you have it, 10 ways to get your stress under control. If you have any other suggestions on managing stress, please leave them in the comments below!

Oh and peep out my stunning outfit I found at Fharenheit 360. I can’t get over this tiered skirt!!

Peace and Blessings,

- Samjah Iman

Picture Credit: Urban 504 Photography

You and Your Friends Should Be Equally Yoked, Too...

My mother once told me that I’d be blessed to have maybe a few real friends in this lifetime. She would say to me quite often, “Sam, everyone isn’t your friend.” Of course then, I thought she was tripping. Because during the time she presented me with that information, I was befriending people I shouldn’t have due to my free heart and humanitarian spirit. After playing Miss Overtly Nice Girl for waaaayyyy too long, I finally came to the conclusion that everyone isn’t meant to ride on this journey with me as a friend. Yes I would still be my nice, cordial self - but befriending individuals who were not on the same spiritual path as I was had to come to an end. After hanging with those fair-weather people who literally depleted my energy, I learned that not only does being equally yoked apply to romantic relationships, it applies to platonic friendships as well.

The word friend holds a lot of weight, and I truly believe it flies out of some people’s mouths too easily. Friends are not just someone you kick it with here and there. Friends are people who evolve with you, who you feel connected to spiritually, and who you can relate to soulfully. To be a true friend and to find a true friend is challenging, because the majority of people in this world are not at peace with themselves - and when you’re not at peace with yourself, it’s impossible to be at peace with others.

When a person is lacking peace, the effects of that lack of peace usually manifests itself in their relationships/friendships - making it very difficult for the individual who lacks peace to accept an individual who isn’t lacking peace - because the content individual forces the discontent individual to see their lack - which in most cases breeds envy on the discontent individuals behalf. If you’re not following what I’m saying thus far, then allow me to bring this point home with a quote from our girl Oprah.

“You can’t be friends with someone who wants your life. ”

— Oprah

The more I keep going to sleep and waking up, the more I realized how correct Oprah is and why her theory holds weight. I’m finding out that when pursuing friendships, it’s best to seek individuals who want at least some of the same things you want out of life. Of course you have those rare occasions where two people on totally different levels create a dope friendship. But true, equally yoked friendships usually happen with individuals who have the same core values and who truly know themselves and are comfortable with who they are (this doesn’t mean they will always agree, but they will definitely be on the same wavelength more times than not). And let me tell you this…..when you’re trying to build a friendship with people who don’t even know and love themselves, the ride will not be pleasant. YOU WILL FEEL DRAINED ALMOST EVERY TIME YOU’RE IN THEIR PRESENCE….and that’s not friendship ladies and gentlemen - that’s torture. Friendships, just like relationships, are mutual affinities. They may not always be 50/50, but they are definitely suppose to be beneficial to both parties.

Friendship is the highest, most solid relationship any two people can ever have. It’s the concrete foundation for whatever type of relationship will come after it (whether it’s business, romantic, sisterhood, brotherhood, etc.). So make sure you inspect your friendships thoroughly…because any cracks in the foundation will most definitely lead to major problems down the line.

“I picks my friends like I pick my fruit. ”

— Erykah Badu

P.S. - I’m in love with my new Veja sneakers that I’m sporting in my pics! They are made out of ecological and sustainable materials which helps me to fashionably reduce my carbon footprint…yay! My pants came from a summer sale at Zara and my crop top and army jacket came from a sale at Urban Outfitters. Cheers to bargains! LOL

I'm Someone's Daughter Too....

The idea for this shirt came to me organically. I was having a conversation with a young man a while ago about his immature behavior. In order to make him deeply understand where I was coming from I said to him, “be the kind of man you’d want your daughter to date or be friends with.” He had no rebuttal.

That evening, I was venting to my mother about the behavior of some men and how I was sick of it. I then told her about my conversation, and I reiterated the fact that I wanted men to treat women like they would want someone to treat their daughters. My mother began co-signing my proclamation and in the middle of her praise, I interrupted her and said, “Ma, that should really be on a shirt.” And here we are…..

Although this shirt evolved from my experiences with some males. It actually speaks to both men and women. Check out what I’m talking about below.

Men – this movement has nothing to do with how you actually treat your daughter or how you will treat your future daughter. It has everything to do with how you want another man to treat her and you reciprocating that behavior when it comes to other girls/women. When you encounter a female, be mindful of the fact that your own daughter (or future daughter) will be navigating this world one day – plant some good seeds for her karma. 
~ Talk to us like you would want someone to talk to your daughter. 
~ Be considerate of our feelings like you wish for someone to be considerate of your daughter’s feelings. 
~ Don’t govern our bodies because you wouldn’t want another man governing your daughter’s body. 
~ Protect and stand up for us like you hope someone will do for your baby girl.

Keep in mind that every female you meet, deal with, have a friendship with, a relationship with, etc. is someone’s daughter. Treat her as such. 

Photo Credit: https://mandmphotographygallery.com/

Women – Show your fellow woman the same grace you would want another female showing your daughter. 
~ Don’t stare her up and down with negativity burning through your eyes. 
~ Don’t publicly support her then silently pray for her downfall. 
~ Lift her up with beautiful words and unending inspiration just like you would want someone to lift your little girl up. 
~ Don’t be nasty to her because her abilities make you feel insecure. 
~ Don’t hate when you see God’s favor shining through the fruits of her labor. 

The last thing you would want is for someone to do any of these things to your daughter….or even you – you’re somebody’s daughter too.

Photo Credit: https://mandmphotographygallery.com/

Self – Ladies, let’s love ourselves as if we are our own daughters. Let’s give ourselves the understanding, unconditional love, patience, grace, and forgiveness we would give our little girls. Let’s take care of ourselves and have mercy on ourselves, all while keeping in mind that we aren’t perfect - but as close to perfection as it will get.

We are divine energy personified. We are constantly evolving. We are walking, talking blessings. Let’s act accordingly.

This shirt is the beginning of a campaign - a campaign to hold ourselves and our men accountable. Join the campaign by purchasing your shirt here.

Photo Credit: https://mandmphotographygallery.com/

P.S. - There is a only a limited supply of these shirts for now. I wanted to introduce them to my subscribers first before I put them on social media. I hope you will consider spreading this message by purchasing a t-shirt….if not, it’s all good…..I’m still rocking with ya! xoxoxo

Oh and one more thing, check out my recent Essence Festival recap here! My email system did something crazy earlier this week and sent an old post out…oh well - s%^& happens!

Peace and Blessings,

- Samjah Iman

Essence Festival 2019 - THE GRIND!!!

New Orleans boasted its usual vibrant, hospitable aura as rambunctious men and women bombarded its bumpy roads and roamed every nook and cranny of its soul. Graphic t-shirts, off-the-shoulder frilly tops, innovative braided hair-dos, and tropical print shirts dominated the streets, sidewalks, and venues. Car horns blared because the city (and traffic) literally froze to witness this glorious, melanin-filled influx. Music was blasting, camera flashes were constantly erupting, and smiles were infectious and contagious as the weekend got underway. This, my friends, is what the 25th Essence Festival Weekend was all about. Hot music, swanky fashion, and beauty galore are just a few reason why this past Essence weekend was nothing short of SUCCESSFUL!!! And did I mention our Forever First Lady, Michelle Obama, was in the building…..AND that I had a front row seat to the Beauty Carnival (thanks to All Things Hair) where experts were on hand to give you tips, products, and foot massages?!? Yup, even the sweltering heat couldn’t keep me away this year. It was my duty (literally) and pleasure to be on the scene!

My Essence weekend was definitely an exciting grind. While I got the chance to experience impactful events and meet intriguing people, it was more strategic for me. My goal was to put myself in some beneficial spaces that would catapult my brand to the next level…..and that is just what I did.

Not only did I get the chance to be in the same city, building, and atmosphere as THE Michelle Obama, I also got the chance (on behalf of All Things Hair) to experience the ultimate celebration of black beauty at The Essence Beauty Carnival!

Since I was attending an elaborate beauty event, I wanted to make sure my hair and outfit were up-to-par. Check out the look and hairstyle I went with below.

Picture Credit: todphotography.com

Picture Credit: todphotography.com

Picture Credit: todphotography.com

When I stepped into the convention center, I was hit with a sea of eager people waiting to bust through the gates of this popular carnival. As soon as I made my way through the entrance, I totally understood their enthusiasm. It was like I walked into a black woman’s dream - a beauty heaven with products made just for our skin and hair!

I partnered with All Things Hair (an informative hair website that gives great insight for all hair types) and Unilever (the parent company of Suave, Shea Moisture, Dove, Love Beauty, Planet, and Tresemme) to capture the happenings at the Dove Beauty Station. Upon arriving at this station, I immediately felt as though I was at the spa. Everything from foot massages, hair stations, to must-have products were being offered at this station. Ladies were patiently waiting in what seemed like the longest line at the Beauty Carnival to experience the treats the Dove station had to offer.

I got the chance to chat with some of the women waiting in line about their experience with Unilever products. One lady couldn’t wait to get her hands on some Dove soap, stating that it never dries her skin out. Another lady was enthused about Suave conditioner because it left her curls feeling hydrated and full of body.

Another aspect of the Dove beauty station (and one of the best parts in my opinion) was the opportunity to sign the petition for the Hair Discrimination Law. This law prohibits any company from discriminating against an individual because of the choice of their hairstyle. The purpose of The CROWN ACT is to Create a Respectful and Open World for Natural Hair. It addresses the discrimination and unfair grooming policies in schools and workplaces that directly impact black men, women, and children. The Crown Act has been passed in California and has passed the New York Senate and the Assembly. To read more about this act and to sign the petition, click here.

The Beauty Carnival and the overall Essence Festival 2019 experience was overwhelmingly incredible. For more on my experience at this event and to check out my interview on All Things Hair, click here.

Also, if you want to see some more of my Essence Festival style, some videos of the entire weekend/beauty carnival, and a segment of me getting ready for the Essence Beauty Carnival, visit my Instagram page and c!ick on the Essence highlights in my profile and check out my Essence Beauty Carnival x All Things Hair IGTV video!

Peace and Blessings,

- Samjah Iman

Outfit Details: Kimono (Forever 21, sold out) // Someone’s Daughter T-shirt (coming soon!) // White Flared Pants (Swank Blue, sold out)

The post is sponsored by All Things Hair; however, all opinions are my own.

Leveling Up is Expensive

I remember when I was presented as a debutante during my senior year of high school. The theme my mother came up with for my tea was “Ending to Begin Again.” Preparing for my debut, my mother and I sat and stuffed each invitation to my soirée in its proper envelope. Every time I picked up an invitation, I read the bold theme written above my picture….Ending to Begin Again, Ending to Begin Again. The theme kind of confused me because in my head graduating high school was a big thing, and now that I was close to accomplishing it - I figured the rest of my life as an adult would be a breeze. In an attempt to undo my confusion, I asked my mother what her motive was behind that theme. My mother - eager to take advantage of a teachable moment - grinned, looked me dead in my face, and said……“you’re conquering one milestone only to start another, hun.”

Since then, I’ve been continuously learning that the more I accomplish, the more I have to do. There is really no ceiling to life if you want the most out of it. I often hear people saying how easier and more enjoyable life will be if they could just get the job they want, the perfect mate, the cozy house, the luxurious car, more customers, etc. And these things may definitely enhance your life, but with all of those things come more work. Just got that degree you’ve been working hard for? Congrats! But now you have to put it to work. Loving that new house you’re in? Cool! But don’t forget to get it sprayed for bugs, mow the lawn, change the smoke detectors, and pay the taxes. New boo, huh? Lovely! It’s now time to learn how to communicate effectively with that person, learn how to share your space, and come up with a flow that benefits the both of you.

Conquering goals motivates us to strive hard each and everyday. But keep in mind that going to the next level is expensive. It requires more energy, more wisdom, more time, more spiritual alignment, etc. Don’t get caught up in the notion that once you’ve accomplished a certain goal, it’s smooth sailing for the rest of the ride. In The Path Made Clear by Oprah Winfrey, she discusses how even after 25 years on her popular television show, success still didn’t come easy - in fact, it became more challenging. When referencing a commencement speech she was invited to make at Harvard University (which totally intimidated her), Oprah wrote, “it seemed, the higher I hiked, the trickier the terrain.” Take it from our Auntie O, if you desire to continuously move up in life, you have to pay the cost that comes with it.

To sum up this post, think about the bible verse that says, “to whom much is given, much is required.” And if you’re a spiritual gangsta, take into consideration this truism from the great, late Notorious BIG - “Mo money, Mo Problems.”

Continue to level up, but always be mindful of the simple fact that you’re always Ending to Begin Again.

Paying the cost,

- Samjah Iman

Outfit Details: Lace Top (tobi.com, sold out) // Shorts (Wrangler jeans I cut up from Wal-Mart) // Pink Blazer (borrowed it from my girl while I was shooting lol) // Nude Heels

Fear Won't Govern My Life

This past week I had a minor scare at my home. I love natural light, and I spring up each morning looking forward to opening my curtains, allowing the sunlight to occupy my living area. Well on one particular day, a deranged looking, Peeping Tom walked by and decided to stop and press his head against my window to get a closer look at the happenings in the Queendom. After discovering me staring right back him, he quickly walked off; seemingly embarrassed. But not too embarrass to return and do it again…..and again! When I saw him lingering in front of my window for the third time, I quickly sounded my alarm to scare him. I then called my parents to let them know the deal. My father instructed me to close the curtains, cock my gun, and send the signal when I’m ready for him to come my way. For the next few days after that I was kind of spooked. I was on high alert. I could already picture myself going to war to defend my territory and ending up on the 5 o’clock news (my mind does the absolute most at times). The fear of what could possibly happen began to paralyze me. I didn’t want to linger outside too long, and I was hesitant about opening my curtains - afraid of what would be lurking on the other side of the window.

My father called to check on me each day and when he did, I told him that I was okay but I didn’t want to open my curtains or be outside too long which was unfortunate because I absolutely loved my neighborhood. Before I could finish going on and on about how startled I still was, he stop me dead in the middle of my sentence and said, “naw Sam….that’s what you don’t need to do. Don’t give into fear or allow your life or routine to be interrupted because of this….live normally.” As soon as he said those words I felt the gangsta in me permeate my pores. I stood up from my couch with confidence and said, “You’re right Daddy! I’m not about to let my fear, this incident, or any other traumatizing situation that has happened in my life, cripple me. I will go about life normally and be prepared for whatever comes my way.” From then on, I relaxed. Yes I’m still acutely aware of my surroundings, the gun is still loaded, the police are on speed dial, and I don’t open my curtains as wide as I did before (small steps), but I’m carrying on with my regular day to day activities like I ordinarily would. I step outside daily with a calmness as if a ruthless army walks before me (and it does….my ancestors are a beast!). It seems as soon as I made the decision to face my fear head on….something incredible happened - my fear vanished. And ya’ll, I did all that stressing and haven’t seen that man since lol.

I thought about how many times I’ve rearranged my routine or life in the past to avoid something or because I feared the outcome. Not anymore. What I’m constantly learning is that most of the fears I’ve conjured up in my head haven’t and probably won’t come to pass.

“Whatever you fear the most has no power - it is the fear that has the power. ”

— Oprah

I remember my mother once saying to me, “When you’re not afraid to fail, it frees you.”, she was on point with that one. Because all fear does is immobilizes us and keeps us from living the fullest life we can possibly live.

Whatever fear is holding you back from doing whatever it is you need to do, face it. Square up with that fear, show your gangsta, and don’t let it have dominion over your life - and in most cases, you’ll find that you’re way more powerful than any fear you’ve ever had.

Picture Credit: Jay Marie Visuals

Outfit Details: Top // Pants (old) // Heels (old similar pair, here)

You've Got to Fill Up Constantly

Listen…..I cannot afford to miss any meals on any day. And if I do miss a meal I get grouchy, I get a headache, I get weak, and even light-headed. I am not the type that can eat one time a day and be content. I need breakfast in the morning, a snack after that, lunch, another snack, then another snack, dinner, and another snack. I don’t play when it comes to feeding my body because the consequences are too much to bear when I don’t do it. And it’s the same when it comes to feeding my soul and mind.

The other day my mother and I were talking about a situation that caused her to go all the way off. When she came back to her usual, collected self she said, “See….that’s why we need to be fed positivity constantly. We just can’t feed our spirit on Monday and expect it to fill us up for the entire week. We’ve got to continuously feed our spirits.” I started amen-ing and clapping like I was on the front pew in the church house. Because if I don’t know about anything else, I know about feeding myself constantly. And whether it be food or spiritual motivation, I need it around the clock. Because just like I suffer the consequences and have mood swings when I’m physically hungry, the same thing happens when I’m spiritually and mentally hungry.

When I go a long time without eating, I’m more tempted to eat junk food or anything in sight just to quiet my growling stomach…..the same thing goes when I’m spiritually and mentally starving. If I’m not feeding my mind and spirit healthy content or inspiring art on a regular basis, my mind and spirit become more susceptible to negativity which in turn produces an unhealthy environment internally.

There are so many positive messages and videos plastered all over the internet and social media. I absolutely love this…..but what’s missing are the messages that tell people they need to ingest these positive/spiritual materials habitually. You can’t listen to a motivational video one day and expect it to get your mind right for the next three months. That’s like filling a car up with gas one time and expecting it to never need gas again! You have to fill your tank up on a consistent basis so that you are motivated to keep going, so that these positive messages become a way of life for you, and so that they can also act as a purgative that will prevent toxic messages from lingering in your mind and spirit too long. I’ve definitely been guilty of watching a spiritual video or reading a motivational book then reverting back to my old way of thinking as soon as life threw me a curve ball. That’s when I learned that feeding my soul and mind could absolutely not be a sporadic thing. I have to feed those aspects of myself the same way I feed my stomach….constantly.

Look ya’ll….life doesn’t let up, so we shouldn’t either. There’s more than likely a new chip waiting for the perfect moment to perch itself comfortably on your shoulder very soon. So make sure you take the time to pull over today and fill up on some motivation. Don’t wait until your tank is on E….at least keep it half full.

Peace and Blessings,

- Samjah Iman

Outfit Details: Top (old, H&M) // Flared Jeans // Sunglasses (sold out, similar here)

Show, Don't Tell

It seems like a lot of people are so loud these days…especially on social media. Everyone is telling you who they are, what they got going on, how hard they hustle, what they make, who wants them, what kind of perks they have, how super real they are, how they should not be disrespected, how they are a queen or king, etc. Don’t get me wrong, everyone should exude confidence and think highly of themselves. I’m all for self-love. However, as the New Orleans bred rapper Lil Wayne once put it, “What’s understood ain’t got to be explained.”

There is no need to state the obvious. If you are walking in your light, you don’t have to tell people that you are shinning. They will see it. You don’t have to verbally demand respect from anyone. Carry yourself in a manner that deserves respect. And if a person isn’t respecting you even when you carry yourself as such, simply remove yourself from the situation.

Going back and forth with anyone (whether it be a colleague, a stranger, a family member, or a mate) about who you are, how you will be treated, what moves you make, and what you represent is useless. As a matter of fact, it often exposes your insecurities and diminishes your character. Whenever I catch myself telling someone who I am and what I’m about, I ask myself - “What point am I trying to prove? And am I trying to prove this point to them or MYSELF?”

“The loudest one in the room is the weakest one in the room. ”

— Denzel Washington as Frank Lucas (American Gangster)

Think about it….does a true queen or king have to constantly reiterate that they are royalty? Nope, they just live in their nobility. Does the bible say that Jesus ever boasted or felt the need to continually tell people what He was capable of? Not that I read. He just did His thing and let His power speak for itself, and that’s the level I’m trying to get on.

Show them who you are, don’t tell them. Remember actions are way louder than words.

Peace and Blessings,

- Samjah Iman

Outfit Details: Fun fact: These leather pants came from my mother’s closet. She purchased them when she was 28 years old! The leather trench coat came from my aunt’s closet. Both of these items were bought before I was born. This is a lesson that buying quality clothing items is truly an investment. My sweatshirt came from H&M some time ago and boots from Zara.

Picture Credit: @d.braz_photography

On a Mind Diet

I was in a lounge area of an office waiting on some paperwork to be completed. In the waiting area, they had about three flat screen televisions mounted on different walls, and on each television set was some tragic news. On one television set a lady had been killed by her daughter, on another a veteran had been robbed, and on another one Trump was throwing a tantrum. Although I wanted to turn my head away from the television sets, I couldn’t. I was engrossed in the calamity, and slowly but surely worry started to creep into my soul. Then I reminded myself of some profound advice a dear friend shared with me years ago; “monitor what you monitor.” Pondering over his words, I declared right in that office that I was putting my mind on a diet.

Of course all negativity isn’t avoidable but if I can help it, I refuse to participate in anything that’s not going to inspire me, make me feel good, or make me laugh. My mind is the portal through which my dreams are born. Why would I cluster it up with anything that will stop that process? Just like I so carefully monitor what foods I put in my body, I need to do the same thing when it comes to my mind. I wouldn’t constantly feed my body junk food throughout the day because I know the results would not be in my favor. The same thing goes for the brain. Constantly feeding it figurative junk food will only put the mind in an unhealthy space.

Always remember that you are what you consume…..watch your mental weight.

Peace & Blessings,

- Samjah Iman

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The Answers Are in Your Gut

You know that feeling you get in your stomach when you’re in a situation that you know you shouldn’t be in or should be in? I’m not talking about stomach cramps or butterflies. I’m talking about that deep tugging you feel in your gut that causes you to pause and wonder if what you’re feeling on the inside is showing on the outside…..yea that feeling. There are numerous times in my life when I’ve experienced that feeling and ignored it - and of course, I ended up saying, “I should have gone with my gut!” Learning from those moments, I made a vow to never ignore my gut again, and let me tell you all - so far that vow has saved me from a lot of hardships.

Quick Story - a few months ago, I was in the process of trying to become a homeowner. After what seemed like 1,000 searches, I found a nice home that was in my price range….but something wouldn’t allow me to fall in love with it. Instead of listening to that feeling (my intuition), I got advice from several people regarding the home buying process. I asked them if it was normal for me to second guess a home that I was about to purchase. Some brushed my feelings off as jitters since I was about to make one of the biggest investments of my life. Others told me to get the house because it was reasonably priced and nice, and it would eventually grow on me. I went over everyone’s advice in my head, but I still didn’t have the peace I needed to feel totally good about the process. Something was nagging at me internally. I ignored the feeling and concentrated on the fact that I really wanted to become a homeowner so I went forward with the process. I signed a contract, got an inspection done, and was on my way to close the deal. I figured my excitement would grow as the closing date approached - it never did. Actually, the internal nagging grew louder - so loud that my sleep began to be disturbed. I called my mother to explain the feeling I had and her advice was, “listen to that voice inside.” That was all I needed to hear. The next day, I called the entire process off. I lost some money from the inspection and a few other things, but that didn’t bother me one bit. Having peace meant way more to me than losing money.

Words can’t express how grateful and proud of myself I am for paying attention to that persistent feeling inside of me. I’m currently still renting, and I’m totally fine with that because I sleep like a baby at night knowing I made the right decision. A friend once said to me that building equity in your peace is way more important than building equity in a house. Boy was he right.

When something doesn’t feel right in your soul, it usually isn’t right - and vice versa. Trust your gut feeling, it’s there for a reason.

“If prayer is you talking to God, then intuition is God talking to you. ”

— Wayne Dyer

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