I used to think that reaching certain milestones in life like graduating, getting a good job, etc., equated happiness, and that I would automatically feel the happy emotion when I accomplished these things. And I did.....temporarily - and then after all the hoopla, I was back to searching for my next happy high. I was also once the girl who thought other people were responsible for making me happy, and some did, but when they disappointed me - I found myself searching for that happy high in another person. I was in an immature relationship in my late 20's, and I remember venting to my friend/mentor about it. I was going on and on about how the guy didn't make me happy all the time and blah, blah, blah. And my friend casually said, "He's not supposed to make you happy, Sam. You're supposed to come to the table being happy. He's just supposed to add to that happiness." Click - the light in my brain came on.
Happiness is a choice YOU make. It's an emotion that depends solely on what you've got going on internally. It should not be circumstantial. No one thing or person can totally bring this emotion into your life or be able to take it away from you. Happiness/joy should be the home/kingdom of your heart. And you should prepare your home how YOU like it. Only you know how you like things to look in your home, how you like to feel when you're at home, etc. Yes you can buy lovely new things for that home and people can come visit that home and add to its beauty, but if those things end up broken or those people decide not to extend their stay - your home doesn't go with them. Life may throw a curve ball and your home could flood, the roof may come off, it may get broken into, or set on fire - but the foundation (i.e. happiness) should still be there.
No longer should we allow any person, circumstance, or thing to dictate our happiness. It's ours, and we have the power over it. So let's choose this emotion as our foundation - the kingdom of our hearts, and everything else that comes along will be lagniappe.